Dating is EXHAUSTING. Not playing games but everyone else is. (boyfriend, guys)
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Uh, yes. And you accused ME of not knowing anything about women?
Be my valentine = spend an inordinate amount of money on me.
First of all, I never accused you of not knowing anything about women. And secondly, be my valentine does not equal that. I would assume that it meant that she wanted to do something with him on Valentine's day. But whether or not it meant the same thing to her, I don't know why you are assuming lavish gifts and money when he made no mention of anything of the sort.
I'd find the behavior completely normal. It was two dates for pete's sakes!!! I wouldn't expect or want attention from a man on Valentine's Day that I really barely even know.
I think the most reasonable thing would simply be to address Valentine's Day, not pretend it doesn't exist.
After two dates, I don't think there need to be any gifts purchased. It would be better, IMO, to say "Valentine's Day has such awkward expectations to it. I don't feel comfortable celebrating in a big way when we're just getting to know each other. Would you like to go ice-skating and get hot chocolate afterward on the 14th?" or something like that.
Was seeing a woman for a month...beautiful, brilliant (in her profession anyway, she's an RN) And we only had a couple of hiccups..last month she got mad at me because I did not ask her "to be my valentine", I told her we had only been dating a couple of weeks (And we only had a couple of dates) and if she were my partner I would have made her happy. I also mentioned to her nothing stopped her from asking me either...I am old fashioned but she could have.
So Saturday I'm gearing up for Date #4, I have reservations at Wollensky Grill she tells me that morning she didn't feel a connection. Now 2 years ago I would have asked why why why what did I do, but I've recently restructured everything in my life..including my thinking. I told her "Ok" and left it at that, then she calls me 20 minutes later explaining and I told her it wasn't necessary. She asked how I could walk away so coldly, and I told her she was the one who wanted to take a break. I told her I was 45 years old and the perfect woman is out there waiting for me..and I wasn't going to keep her waiting by spending time with someone who didn't want to be with me.
Now she's called me 4 or 5 times since then, wants to grab lunch today and now honestly I'm turned off. She's a stunning woman who can get any guy she wants, but her actions this weekend made me a lot less attracted to her.
I'm not questioning my decision making here but it does baffle me why she did this. Thanks for letting me rant! - Chris
I'm not seeing any games, you honestly just sound like a jerk.
We're talking about differences in terminology here, you say "do something with him on Valentine's day," I say, "spend a bunch of money on me."
They're both the same thing. But since you're a woman, and have largely no concept that dating, entertaining you, making you feel sperrrrcial costs a lot of money, since dating doesn't cost you anything.
And you did accuse me of not knowing anything about women on the other thread.
Unless OP is a mind reader, how was he supposed to know she wanted to be his valentine if she didn't tell him? Mind you, they only had 2 dates. OP had this experience in the past:
...so even if he did want to be her valentine, he didn't want to risk it ending the same way as that other woman. Now he was wrong for not assuming that she'd be interested in being his valentine.
Men can never win.
Wow. The woman says she doesn't feel a connection, he responds healthily, she gets pissed off because of this and HE'S THE JERK????
Like I said above, men can never win.
OP you did the right thing.
My only point was that the poster was making a huge leap from what the OP said.
My only point was that the poster was making a huge leap from what the OP said.
Sorry. I retract that post then.
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