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"When someone flirts with you out of genuine interest, it’s just enough for you to notice it, but also faint enough for you to suspect that it’s your imagination. When it’s unmistakably clear to you and everyone in the room that someone is flirting with you, they are probably after something else."
What do you think? Accurate or false...or somewhere in the middle. Here's the article below.
I think anytime you try to buy into a generalized formula for this sort of thing, you're in trouble. The idea in the quote is that anyone genuinely interested would also be too shy to be obvious about it. And the people who are obvious about it and leave no room for doubt are trying to manipulate you for other reasons. While there's some truth to that, human nature is varied enough that you can't make a sweeping generalization like that. Some people have enough confidence that shyness wouldn't play into it.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 03-03-2014 at 09:15 PM..
Location: Somewhere in a Field of Hopes and Dreams
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See, I thought of it as saying things aren't so literal and that just because someone flirts with you in grand gestures, it doesn't necessarily require an ultimate analysis that the person likes you. Where as small gestures--not necessarily out of shyness, but rather the fact that not all the factors needed to show if a potential relationship is worth pursuing are present-- can be a symbol of a more genuine, yet innocent attraction.
Either way, apparently this is a type of "relationship" formula I have never heard of before, but I thought it struck on some chords of reality.
"When someone flirts with you out of genuine interest, it’s just enough for you to notice it, but also faint enough for you to suspect that it’s your imagination. When it’s unmistakably clear to you and everyone in the room that someone is flirting with you, they are probably after something else."
What do you think?
The first example is my choice of the kind of flirting I am comfortable with. The second example I would typically ignore. I wouldn't think with the second example that the person doing the flirting is after something else ... I just prefer personal flirting that doesn't involve the whole room!
I didn't read that whole article, but a wise friend of mine once told me that people who have deep feelings will be protective of them, and therefore, be subtle. This subtleness is often mistaken for them not having any feelings at all. The thing is, they need to train themselves to express their feelings because people aren't mind-readers.
It's no coincidence that sociopaths are very expressive even though they don't mean it one bit.
Flirting is not only in words, but it's also in body language.
The gaze in your eyes, the vocal cords in your voice, your smile, your nervousness, the way you fumble around with objects are all tell-tale signs of interest.
Flirting is not only in words, but it's also in body language.
The gaze in your eyes, the vocal cords in your voice, your smile, your nervousness, the way you fumble around with objects are all tell-tale signs of interest.
If you're not sure, always assume they are flirting. The embarrassment of pursuing someone who really isn't flirting with you is not nearly as bad as the the regret of not pursuing someone who you even suspect may be interested.
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