Women: How much do you expect men to make? (dating, wife, boyfriend)
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My BF has been mainly living off the retirement he pulled early while he worked on getting his business/school up and running. That venture didn't end up working out long term. Currently, he doesn't make very much <20k, but it's not an issue.
The last serious relationship I was in, my partner made 95k gross, but his take home was considerably less given his ex received about $3000 a month in support payments. My ex-husband, within his career field at the level he's at, the pay ranges from 70-100k (higher if overseas), but then child support would run anywhere from $2200-2700 a month. I can see how many women would be perturbed by that.
I'm a teacher, so I don't put a whole lot of emphasis on high salary, obviously, and I'm not a golddigger. I prioritize enjoying what I do and making a liveable wage (for me) doing it, and am generally attracted to me who are similar. I'm pretty low maintenance, and somehow ended up in a long-term relationship at one point with someone who was pretty obsessed with money/status. We didn't understand one another at all, in that regard, so lesson learned from that point on that I would only entertain the idea of serious relationships with guys who aren't obsessed with making bank and impressing other people with how much they make and wrapping a lot of their self worth around it. I would assume someone in middle age would be able to support himself to his own standard of living and has a plan for long-term savings in place, but other than that, I'm not too worried about it.
In the case of my husband, we knew that I'd be putting my own career on hold due to military moves if we married, so it was critical that his salary be sufficient for our household with or without my contributions. Given his paygrade, it's totally doable. It's never a given that a military spouse can find decent work at a given duty station, and knowing that my contributions when we PCS would likely be smaller than my previous salary, since job options for military spouses on short term orders generally are...interesting. I wouldn't have quit my job to move to a new duty station had it not been financially feasible for me to do so.
How much $ do you expect a man you will consider marrying to make? The basic minimum you expect him to make. Let's say mid 30s to early 40s in age, so he should have his career established by then. Let's say the median income geographically, so if you live in San Fransisco, chop a little off, if you live in Florida, move it a little up, etc, etc.
I'm not really interested in hearing why, I know the why. Numbers. Please just answer the poll.
I expect him to make enough to support himself because I am not currently in a position to support both of us. If I were making a tidy sum, I wouldn't give a rat's behind what he made, as long as he wasn't sitting around feeling entitled and trying to take advantage of my generosity. But I simply cannot afford to float two people on my current income.
So its SEEMS that a lot(not all) of women as long as the man is self sufficient that they don't care about salary.
Apparently you're not aware of the trend of women marrying down in financial status. I certainly did, and was the primary breadwinner by far in my marriage. Too bad he felt that entitled him to life as a perpetual student.
While that is true, if you have lived in a high income area, you know that there are many people who make normal wages there. There are many people who make $15/hr in San Francisco and live. But that is a another argument.
But anyway, just adjust down. I think most people are aware of what dollar figures equate to certain styles of living as an average in the US.
??? How does that work? In my experience, unless there are tons of apartments in the area (big cities), people who earn $15/hr cannot afford to live in high-income areas UNLESS they do not have an ongoing shelter (housing) payment. There are people like this everywhere - e.g. inherited a house without a mortgage, or adults who live with parents - but nowhere are there "many people" in that position..
So its SEEMS that a lot(not all) of women as long as the man is self sufficient that they don't care about salary.
Maybe it "seems" that way because it IS that way
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