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Why does the male in question have to be ignorant about the culture he is seeking to date in. Males that are rejected by american women can be extremely smart they just dont have the look or whatever it is that american women are looking for. It all boils down to finding a target rich enviornment and learning what you have to learn to make it work. Much easier to learn things and do what you need to do when women are clamoring to be romantic with you than grovel to get on a womans spread sheet and then court her for who knows how long while she is going down on one of the other 7 guys she is dating. Think im wrong, one woman came on here with her "delema" about what to do with the 7 guys she was dating and I think she was sleeping with one or 2 of them, sucks to be the other 6 guys buying dinners.
Why do men have to ask out 20 women to MAYBE get one to go out where he has to buy and the odds of getting head are slim to none, then suck up the constant rejection when women have spread sheets going. How is that healthy at all, if women had to deal with that they would be slitting their wrists.
To me, it seems (I said "seems") like you need money or model good looks for a woman to like you. True love is dead or at least dying
One of the women who rejected me befriended me today. This is a woman who told me to leave her alone. Of course, I honored that. Now she wants to be my friend. That brought everything back when I was moving on with my life.
Yeah, if the rejection was harsh, like it was in your instance, they shouldn't be mad if you don't want to be particularly friendly with them.
You like a woman, she rejects you ROMANTICALLY. Okay. BUT are you THAT hurt, that you can't talk to her anymore? Really??
Maybe she could be a good friend and MAYBE if she gets to know you as a friend, she might develop some feelings? And if not, maybe she has cute friends?
Most of my coworkers think that I am taken because I realized, once they get rejected by me, it is difficult to work with them, they act super bitchy around me. So I rather have them think I have a bf so they are much more casual aorund me and treat me like a buddy.
Depends how long their dry spells are. I know women cant relate but alot of guys dont get sex on demand and it can be very frustrating and upsetting.
I know guys get rejected more than women. This might sound like sour grapes on my part but if a woman rejected me I would avoid her and never speak to her again. Actually, I have done that 3 times. It would be awkward. Besides, who wants to be around the person who rejected them? I don't. To the men here, would you avoid a woman who rejected you?
It depends on many factors and the nature of rejection. There are some women that I like that if I were to try to escalate things and she declines, I could still be friends with her. I'd only ask once and it would be like it never happened.
Again, there are too many factors to consider in my case.
Honestly, you seem to have pinned all of this on "American women", which is fine. The problem is that, with the way you responded... you proved to me that if you do decide to marry some Asian woman.. you are going to have some very serious problems in the future.
As I already stated, I don't care about your views. You're free to think and feel as you wish.. but as a guy who has dated quite extensively with foreign women.. you seem to have a lot to learn.
Maybe you should ask my mom's friend from work how his wife from Asia worked out. Or my uncle's wife from Laos. You only are talking like you do because you just don't seem to fully grasp it.
I know I have family members that get pissed at me when I try to tell them how to live their lives based off of experiences I have had with certian things so why would this stuation be any different.
The situation is not complicated, either american women like you or they dont and if they dont what do you have to loose going over seas? Of course it might not work out but if someone is so desperate to go over seas its obviously not working here either.
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One of the women who rejected me befriended me today. This is a woman who told me to leave her alone. Of course, I honored that. Now she wants to be my friend. That brought everything back when I was moving on with my life.
At this stage I would reject the "consolation prize" of being her friend. It is clear that the proposed friendship will cause you a lot of self-drama. For your own sake, reject her friendship and have NO further contact with her.
grovel to get on a womans spread sheet and then court her for who knows how long while she is going down on one of the other 7 guys she is dating
Is this an excel spreadsheet? Do I need to set up a spread sheet myself? Or is spread sheet another name for !*#$.
Sometimes I think that you guys are going after the wrong women. No wonder you keep getting rejected and have such a nasty attitude. Just because you want to date a certain girl, doesn't mean she has to agree to date you. I remember a guy who kept trying to get me to go out with him and he finally said he thought everyone should go out with a guy that asks them. He sounded like a loser so I was glad I had no interest in him.
Be glad that a girl realizes that you are not her type. Don't take it so personal. At least she didn't think: "he's not my type, but I will go out with him for 6 months then dump him when I get tired of him" By her knowing what she wants and doesn't want, saves you the heartache.
Mixed signals are confusing me though. What would possess a woman to want me to be her friend after telling me to leave her alone?
It could be simple as time and circumstances. She might have been going through something that somehow you didn't know about that made her a little more harsh so to speak. Now that she's had time to get her mind right...
People are illogical, even those who claim logic.
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Is this an excel spreadsheet? Do I need to set up a spread sheet myself? Or is spread sheet another name for !*#$.
