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I got some great advice on here from some good people and am starting to sort my head out around my previous post.
I wondered if I could have some feedback on the following from those of you that have 18 to 25-year-old children particularly daughters (D1 and 2 below) and what you would think if you found out that they had said or done any from the list below to your new wife. I don't have kids of my own so I have no idea:
(Keep in mind that I was always nice, smiling, welcoming and complimentary to them).
I was called a "user" by D1. (as in using someone not drugs).
D1 doesn't like that I now have the same surname as she does.
D1 doesn't like the way I talk to Husband (when Hubby and I were joking around about a box he was making).
D2 tampered with a photo on my Facebook so it sent out to all and sundry.
D1 has stated that when we got married it was "a very difficult time for her family".
D1 walked straight past me into the kitchen at Hubby's and my house and started helping herself to things in drawers the second time she was here and cleaning surfaces.
Ignored me and turned her back on me when I said hello.
D1 doesn't like that he pays for everything (although I am not legally allowed to work).
D1 very pointedly said "oh I see you got dressed up" the first time she came to the house (it was cold, I was wearing what is actually a very expensive sweater and yoga pants).
I don't have anyone at all to talk to about any of this.
So - helpful advice guys. Thank you.
I mean, is this normal? They haven't been anywhere or done anything at all, never left home, they still live with Mom, haven't been out of the country and born and brought up in what is more or less countryside in CA. I'm from a big city and have been around the world and lived in three different countries and no longer tolerate crap from anyone.
How long ago did you get married? The reason I am asking is, maybe the girl is still having trouble accepting that you took her mom's shoes. Of course its not your fault.
And how did you meet your husband? Did you date for a significant time and ease into the family situation gradually, or was it a sudden thing? Signs point to an Internet relationship which certainly can be worrying to the children of a person who gets involved too fast with a virtual stranger...
So she was 20 when her parents separated? She might not like the way her mother and father were together, but that doesn't mean she was ready for a new woman in her father's life. Maybe she just hoped that after all the turmoil of her parents marriage and divorce she would have time to spend with her father without worry about romantic relationships interfering with theirs?
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