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Have you ever had this happen? You pour your heart out to the object of your affections, telling them you don't expect them to respond or even feel the same way because right now you're just friends, and they say something like, "Oh, er, that's great but, you know, I don't feel the same way and I think we shouldn't have any more contact. Like ever." And suddenly you're dropped on FB and every other part of their life. Do you snap back with, "Well, obviously that person was a jerk who just didn't appreciate me!" or do you spend some time wallowing in your hurt and humiliation? Do you try to convince them it's okay not to feel the same way or give up on them as a bad idea and do your utmost to move on?
Just curious how people who've experienced this have handled it.
Never experienced it.
Everytime I have said the words I love you it's not been a negative experience and it was a mutual connection based on history and affection.
once those feelings are out of the closet it's hard to just put them back in for both parties like they never existed.
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My feelings would be hurt, but I wouldn't feel any resentment toward them. It's not their fault if they don't love, or like me. Now, I would resent them if they were a jerk with their rejection. Like snubbing, or laughing in your face, rudeness, etc.
But, I never had it happen--exactly. I have had crushes that didn't like me, and some who were aware of my feelings but wanted nothing to do with me. But never been in love, or dated, for that matter.
No, but I have been the object of unrequited feelings. There's no graceful or painless way to hurt someone like that, but what you are going through sounds hard. I'm sorry.
Have you ever had this happen? You pour your heart out to the object of your affections, telling them you don't expect them to respond or even feel the same way because right now you're just friends, and they say something like, "Oh, er, that's great but, you know, I don't feel the same way and I think we shouldn't have any more contact. Like ever." And suddenly you're dropped on FB and every other part of their life. Do you snap back with, "Well, obviously that person was a jerk who just didn't appreciate me!" or do you spend some time wallowing in your hurt and humiliation? Do you try to convince them it's okay not to feel the same way or give up on them as a bad idea and do your utmost to move on?
Just curious how people who've experienced this have handled it.
You should not be falling in love with people who you are not in a relationship with.
This is your fault, no one else's, least of all the other person.
That kind of rejection would only feel devastingly-hurtful, for me personally...also the more attached I am to them, the more it would hurt. I don't think I could ever get angry about it, would just feel extremely hurt and humiliated...
I am very sorry this is something you're having to deal with right now, and I honestly feel for ya there bro But also pls remember that for all of the (many) rejections we all have to ultimately face in life, you realy only have to find one special girl who says "ILY" back too!
Have you ever had this happen? You pour your heart out to the object of your affections, telling them you don't expect them to respond or even feel the same way because right now you're just friends, and they say something like, "Oh, er, that's great but, you know, I don't feel the same way and I think we shouldn't have any more contact. Like ever." And suddenly you're dropped on FB and every other part of their life. Do you snap back with, "Well, obviously that person was a jerk who just didn't appreciate me!" or do you spend some time wallowing in your hurt and humiliation? Do you try to convince them it's okay not to feel the same way or give up on them as a bad idea and do your utmost to move on?
Just curious how people who've experienced this have handled it.
I've never told anyone I loved them on the first date. I think you screwed up there.
It didn't sound like a first date; it sounded like she told a friend.
I did it once, and I knew ahead of time there would be a risk. But I had been SO miserable with my feelings for him that it was ALMOST a relief to have told him even though he was not in love with me.
It DID hurt to have my hopes of reciprocal feelings dashed. But I respected that he did not feel like we could even be friends after my admission. I missed him terribly after, but just had to get over it.
It took a VERY long time ... years.
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But also pls remember that for all of the (many) rejections we all have to ultimately face in life, you realy only have to find one special girl who says "ILY" back too!
