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1. No overbearing parents (Yeah, I went on a date with a dude whose dad called twice on our first date).
2. Emotionally available
3. No lingering ex
5. Well-read
6. Doesn't believe in the archaic idea that the man is the head of his household
7. Doesn't mention "marriage", "engagement" or "children" after 3 dates
8. Has an actual job
Result so far: FAIL
Last edited by LostinPhilly; 05-22-2014 at 04:24 AM..
If I ever get to the point I would want to propose to someone, I would see if they hit several criteria Here's my list
1. Emotionally supportive
2.Treats others well
3. No qualms with cooking
4. No religious or political fanaticism ie won't make me convert or try and raise the kids a certain way.
5. Responsible, has a decent job
6. Likes sex
7. Would be a good mother
8. Understands that marriage is a life commitment.
Anything offensive about this list? My sister (the bridezilla) went on a rant about how she would never marry a guy who ran her though a checklist.
We give children "report cards" and employees "performance reviews", what's wrong with clarifing your criteria for happiness and the score for each? Unless you update your list/score frequently as some kind of OCD thing.
I have no issues with your list; seems reasonable. My list is of course different.
Perhaps your sister is concerned she would not pass the checklist of her betrothed? j/k I'm sure she's a lovely human being.
My list is a bit up there. But some guys like this exist. It's just finding one that isn't taken, and interested.
Physically Attractive--To me. Idc what anyone else thinks.
And of course has to be a man. lol
Personality
Spoiler
Confident Charismatic--good with words Smart--doesn't have to be a genius. But he needs to have some kind of sense. Book sense, or common sense/street smarts. I think I would prefer street smarts, but long as he has 1, it's not a deal-breaker. Chivalrous Alpha -- Not a gorilla, or hoodlum, but someone that can take charge and isn't a pansy Laid Back - Not easily frazzled, or temperamental, or at least not temperamental with me. lol Non-Drinker -- Father is a drunk, and it's not sexy, nor worth it. Social drinking is fine, but the 1st time I catch him drinking to the point of drunk, i'm gone--already shows a lack of control and maturity. Non-Smoker - Stinky, disgusting habit. And I have very low tolerance for smoke. Hard to breathe, and aggravates my eyes. No Baggage Everyone has a past, and some less than great times. But I don't wanna deal with mental scaring. They need to be functional lol and thus causes no relationship rifts. Like if his ex was a cheater, so he's overbearing and controlling with me.
And f course we need common interests. Some of those points are opposite to me, but I feel that would be a good balance. I am a bit neurotic. So, I think the last thing I need is a neurotic partner--for example.
These personality traits are the ones I am attracted to. I may fall in love with a guy total opposite to this list, or I may like him enough to put the list aside. But I haven't met that guy yet. So, this is my list for now. lol
I didn't go into physical, because a few guys I thought were very unattractive at first, but they hit some of those personality points that made them sexy, even their looks got better. Though I wouldn't date some of them lol because some were bad news. But they did have the sex appeal.
Last edited by HappyRain; 05-22-2014 at 04:20 AM..
I found a list my ex wrote about me.. even though he managed to say good things, the thought he actually made a list about me was enough for me to want to dump him.
I don't like to be deconstructed into pieces. Like me for who I am, not what I can *do* for you.
Accept me as a whole or I'm out the door. And, I chose to walk out the door.
I enjoy being with people who are open to different dynamics in relationships and how each partner brings out certain qualities that makes our bond unique instead of judging or scrutinizing to the little itty bitty details. Live. Relax. Enjoy. *Gheez
And, if a person wants to be a relationship accountant, then go buy a robot for a partner. Ew.
Hate to say it but for a marriage to work you need to see what you and your partner to bring to the table. Who is the disciplinarian for the kids and who comforts them after? The reason why we have so many divorces is because people think that love conquers all, no it doesn't. Love is important, yes but ultimately you have to consider what your partner and you contribute to the marriage. There needs to be logic for a marriage to work. I'm a CPA by the way.
- Good driver.
- Pleasant, good-natured.
- Intellegent.
- Responsible.
- Nice to other people.
- no tatoos (yuck, they're so un-becoming).
- non-smoker.
- good sense of morality and decency.
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