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I tried online dating and the men on there were extremely unappealing. I went on a date with one guy who was so socially awkward that I wondered if he had been homeschooled his entire life. If they were half-normal, you just knew they were players. If I were ever single, I don't think I would try online dating again (at least, not the free sites!)
You get what you pay for. But to be fair, the women are no better. Flakes, fake profiles, laundry list of requirements, ranting about no hookups(they do it).
Online or offline people lie. That's why dating should be a filtering out process. I think people take dating way too serious. Spend time with a person to see if you are comparable. If not move on. Date a 100 to find the one.
I don't know. Most women I've talked to about online dating haven't enjoyed it all that much.
If this was the case, you'd think they'd have 100% chances at winning the lottery and there would be no single women.
It *may* be the case for quite attractive women between the ages of 21 and 26 or so - much of this is probably because men of all ages up to 50 or more will say "what the hell?" and send a message.
I'd also agree that out of the 5 women, 4 of them are pretty close to each other in attractiveness level, same with the men.
I'd like to know what age he set the profiles for. I've seen other OKC studies that show age also has a huge impact on the messages you'll receive. Women start to drop precipitously around 27 and men around 32. By age 36 for women and age 42 for men, they aren't even in most people's searches.
Also, the experiment (and the study in my link) took place in 2011 or 2012, when OKCupid was newer and more geared toward younger people - now youth are using dating phone apps. I'm not sure the same result would happen today.
Online is a reflection of real life. Online, you'll find people who lie, play games, and men hit on every attractive woman they see. How is this different than real life? This is why I always roll my eyes when people bash online dating. What are you people expecting? Do you really think it's going to be better than the real world?
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Originally Posted by flathead4
What OLD sites need to do is require all members to initiate contact with a certain number of people per month. Or your profile is booted.
If you do that, even fewer people would sign up. eHarmony at least tries to match people up instead of waiting for them to contact each other.
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Originally Posted by LXXXI
You have to send out a LOT of messages to hope you get ANY reply, even if it's just "Go kick rocks".
This is exactly why online dating has such a bad reputation. The men play the numbers game and message every woman they see. The women get bombarded with more messages than they can handle and eventually leave the site. The men who never got replies become bitter about their messages being ignored. And once the women have left, the men discover they vastly outnumber the women. While the women who got lots of messages may have been initially flattered at all the attention, they'll quickly grow tired of it, especially when they discover that most of the messages they get are from fat old men who are probably still married. But again, how is that different than real life? Attractive women get hit on a lot in the offline world. But do you think even half of those men are people the women would want to go out with? Of course not.
This is what happens when so many people go to college and pick majors like Journalism. You get dumb internet articles.
Really? Men hit on women more than women hit on me? I've NEVER heard of that before.
And yet, some people will contend that women are constantly asking guys out. So while it's not news to most of us, we have a few around here that cling to certain ideas.
Experiments like this are what you get, when the profiles are free.
80% of the dudes are chasing the top 20% of the girls. Half those "girls" are fake profiles run by other dudes. The rest are ignored and suffer in silence, while hopeful msgs are sent to profiles that haven't logged on in 2 years.
Bull. How would you like to try the opposite? Nothing.
What OLD sites need to do is require all members to initiate contact with a certain number of people per month. Or your profile is booted.
An interesting idea, but what you'd find is people "initiating contact" with "hi" and never responding back. Some sites are trying certain concepts to get around the gender imbalance.
Experiments like this are what you get, when the profiles are free.
80% of the dudes are chasing the top 20% of the girls. Half those "girls" are fake profiles run by other dudes. The rest are ignored and suffer in silence, while hopeful msgs are sent to profiles that haven't logged on in 2 years.
Fake profiles?
How do you know?
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