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Very silly qu. Are all virgins pious and those who have lots of hits somehow bad humans?? The qu should be is the guy or girl compatible for you and if so give it a try.
I was my first husband's first. So... yeah. He never inquired about my number, but knew I had been with others before. I know the number (or have a general idea) of partners my serious partners had. Two are the type that are only intimate in relationships, and both had only been in a 3-4. Two others divulged their number when we discussed experiences, interests, etc. And there were a few guys I dated briefly that were pretty open about their history and experiences.
Not really. You can determine whether a guy is just a user without knowing his number, and a low number won't preclude his being a user either. I think it's much more important how he treats women and regards them as people.
This.
I have slept with a lot of women but I do not use or mislead them. They know I was not looking for anything serious at the time and we just enjoyed each others company and had a good time.
Men want and expect something that is just not practical. Gonna be rare to find women 25 or older who are virgins or only had 2 or 3 sexual partners. Or that they are some ***** if they been with more. Which is not fair to the woman.
Fair enough.
You may be right, it MAY be impractical to want to find that rare unicorn that hasn't been with dozens of guys, but if that's what someone wants, more power to them. If, IF *IF* I were willing to get into any kind of relationship again, I'd want it to be with a woman who had a very low count (25 is too old for me to consider for a relationship anyway, so maybe all this is not applicable). I don't want to run into six guys that have bedded her every time I go to the grocery, and I want her to be able to form a pair bond with me. I've read about partner count and oxytocin levels, and how a woman's ability to bond decreases with each partner. I've also read opinions saying that's complete bunk. I'm not a psychiatrist, nor a brain scientist, but looking at the ones I've known with a high count, this seems pretty accurate. Maybe that holds true for men, too, but I really doubt it. Again, based on personal experience, I've seen guys that were in the hundreds by the time they were 22 and they STILL managed to bond when they found 'the one'.
It's not unfair, however. This is something they have absolute control over. Men, OTOH, have no control over whether they grow to 6' 3", have perfect bone structure in their face, and have a full head of never-graying hair for their entire life. We DO have some control over whether we make $100k a year, whether we are a thug, etc., but it's not total control. It's a little harder to land a $100k a year job than it is to....eh, keep the count low.
I am curious of what woman's thoughts on this are. As in what's the imaginary number you are ok with. I know lots of men have a delusional idea of number of sexual partners for women to have had before they are no longer LTR material.
You may be right, it MAY be impractical to want to find that rare unicorn that hasn't been with dozens of guys, but if that's what someone wants, more power to them. If, IF *IF* I were willing to get into any kind of relationship again, I'd want it to be with a woman who had a very low count (25 is too old for me to consider for a relationship anyway, so maybe all this is not applicable). I don't want to run into six guys that have bedded her every time I go to the grocery, and I want her to be able to form a pair bond with me. I've read about partner count and oxytocin levels, and how a woman's ability to bond decreases with each partner. I've also read opinions saying that's complete bunk. I'm not a psychiatrist, nor a brain scientist, but looking at the ones I've known with a high count, this seems pretty accurate. Maybe that holds true for men, too, but I really doubt it. Again, based on personal experience, I've seen guys that were in the hundreds by the time they were 22 and they STILL managed to bond when they found 'the one'.
It's not unfair, however. This is something they have absolute control over. Men, OTOH, have no control over whether they grow to 6' 3", have perfect bone structure in their face, and have a full head of never-graying hair for their entire life. We DO have some control over whether we make $100k a year, whether we are a thug, etc., but it's not total control. It's a little harder to land a $100k a year job than it is to....eh, keep the count low.
That's probably one of the worst replies that could have been made to that post. I don't see how you can get 'angry at women' from it. I don't get 'angry' about much of anything any more. Perturbed for a few seconds, maybe, and then I shake my head and laugh, because that's about all you can do in life. Laugh at it, or it will $&@& you.
I used to talk to a guy online and he told me he'd been with about 200 women, he was in his 30s like me. It didn't bother me if anything I was curious what it was like to be with all those women, but I didn't have the gall to ask him about all of it. He used to be in the marine corp and had been all over the world. If anything I blamed it on the women, jumping into bed with a guy they barely knew then expecting the sun moon and stars. I just don't like the lying how the men will say they been with 3 when really it's 30 . Anything but the lying. I think guys are afraid to tell me because I am a virgin and they think any number above like 4 is going to scare me but it doesn't.
You may be right, it MAY be impractical to want to find that rare unicorn that hasn't been with dozens of guys, but if that's what someone wants, more power to them. If, IF *IF* I were willing to get into any kind of relationship again, I'd want it to be with a woman who had a very low count (25 is too old for me to consider for a relationship anyway, so maybe all this is not applicable). I don't want to run into six guys that have bedded her every time I go to the grocery, and I want her to be able to form a pair bond with me. I've read about partner count and oxytocin levels, and how a woman's ability to bond decreases with each partner. I've also read opinions saying that's complete bunk. I'm not a psychiatrist, nor a brain scientist, but looking at the ones I've known with a high count, this seems pretty accurate. Maybe that holds true for men, too, but I really doubt it. Again, based on personal experience, I've seen guys that were in the hundreds by the time they were 22 and they STILL managed to bond when they found 'the one'.
That has to be one of the most inane things I have ever read in this forum.
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. Anything but the lying. I think guys are afraid to tell me because I am a virgin and they think any number above like 4 is going to scare me but it doesn't.
