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I've been hanging out with this girl a lot and after a while we finally fooled around.
I won't get into too much detail but there was no sex, no oral sex and no orgasims.
There was a lot of touching with hands though, everywhere.
I kind of realized in hindsight that even though I don't want to scare her away with just trying to HAVE SEX. That I should have really gotten in there and pushed the limits to as far as things could go. In a nice sexy not too pushy kind of way.
But after a certain point we just kind of stopped. Say right in the middle of things or something. So no one took there pants off and one thing didn't lead to another.
We definitely are both highly attracted to each other and usually she doesn't want too fool around too much so this was a surprise.
Some women have a 3 date rule others have a 20 date rule.
Anyways Since I didn't man up and push the limits do you think she will still be interested in me sexually? Do you think she will still want to hook up and do this again?
Next time I will definitely have an end goal in mind and try to at least give her something more than what I did...
and some times girls stop guys and say okay haha thats enough... I guess if she does that I will kindly ask her why not?
anyways did I just lose my chance and push her way by not trying to give her an orgasm or at least stick my hand down her pants? or am I just over thinking?
Yes, this. It's so simple. There's no need to assume she wanted or would have appreciated you pushing your way into giving her an "O" at this stage. The best policy is usually to follow her cues, generally speaking. She apparently wants to take things somewhat slowly. Pushing would be the wrong thing to do. Next time you get into it with her, you might try asking. You know, verbal communication. It's amazing sometimes what that can do.
You know someone well enough to get into the preliminary stages of intimacy, but not well enough to ask a simple question and discuss what it is you're doing? Does that make sense to you? It might to a HS student, but not to a grown adult.
I guess my question is do you think I ruined my chances of any future hooking up or progressing etc by not really taking initiative and trying to push my way down there in a friendly sexy way.
Trust me, there is not much that is LESS SEXY than a guy hell-bent on giving you "an O" because he thinks it's the "next step."
Get out of the "should I" mentality. We have NO IDEA id you "ruined your chances." Only she can tell you that.
You are WAY overthinking this whole dating thing. It's supposed to be about getting to know someone and taking steps together. STOP LOOKING AT IT AS A CHECKLIST.
It sounds totally fine to me...just depending on the vibe, which we couldn't know since we weren't there. I've hooked up where it was probably pretty similar to what you said, making out and lots of touching and that's it (mixed in with cuddling and talking/laughing and a general good time), and it was great. Just made me want more.
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