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Husband and I have our one year anniversary coming up next year, but he also has a friend getting married out of town that same weekend. Is it selfish that I'd like to enjoy the weekend just the 2 of us doing something special and low key around us instead of having to go for the wedding and end up spending over 1k (airfare / hotel / etc..)
Or should I just suck it up and celebrate at a different time.
I would suck it up if it's important to your husband. It's easy to change your plans and celebration. I've never been one to think one specific date is sacred.
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Husband and I have our one year anniversary coming up next year, but he also has a friend getting married out of town that same weekend. Is it selfish that I'd like to enjoy the weekend just the 2 of us doing something special and low key around us instead of having to go for the wedding and end up spending over 1k (airfare / hotel / etc..)
Or should I just suck it up and celebrate at a different time.
Your feelings are understandable How close is your husband to this friend and what does he say he wants?
Go. Hold hands with your husband as you watch the couple exchange vows. Reflect on the year you have had as husband and wife. Dance with your husband. Celebrate. Feed each other another slice of wedding cake. Hug the bride and tell her you hope she has as great a first year as you have had.
I would suck it up if it's important to your husband. It's easy to change your plans and celebration. I've never been one to think one specific date is sacred.
That's what I would do. My husband usually has to work on our anniversary and there have been years where I have had to as well. We don't always celebrate on the exact date - just sometime around the date. But we also don't usually do something extravagant - typically just a nice dinner out or something.
Go. Hold hands with your husband as you watch the couple exchange vows. Reflect on the year you have had as husband and wife. Dance with your husband. Celebrate. Feed each other another slice of wedding cake. Hug the bride and tell her you hope she has as great a first year as you have had.
You'll have a great time.
I agree
But since it's apparently their "first" she's feeling a little put out by having to share it.
I don't blame her for the way she feels, just hope she'll be able to let her vision of what she thinks should happen grow and evolve.
It's been a rough year, no job, getting used to each other's quirks, etc...alone time to reflect back is nice in my opinion. Yes, it could be celebrated at anytime, but it's the first anniversary. If it were any other date, I'd be more flexible and would be ok with it.
Just one of those if I had my choice, I know where I'd rather be, because we made it! Smooth sailing onward
If it's really about the cost, the coincidence of dates wouldn't matter. I think you're being selfish, yes, but then again I am not particularly attached to that stuff. A year or two ago I let ours sneak up on me and almost overlooked it altogether.
It's been a rough year, no job, getting used to each other's quirks, etc...alone time to reflect back is nice in my opinion. Yes, it could be celebrated at anytime, but it's the first anniversary. If it were any other date, I'd be more flexible and would be ok with it.
Just one of those if I had my choice, I know where I'd rather be, because we made it! Smooth sailing onward
I don't know - maybe because my husband (and me, too - when I was working) works at nights on on weekends, I've never cared too much about doing things on the actual dates. I think what's important is the fact that you've been together for a year - not that you celebrate on the exact date. We celebrate most things on a different date - Valentine's, birthdays, anniversaries.
And just throwing this out there - if things have been rough so far - and if this wedding is important to your husband - it's not going to help anything if you make a big deal about it. Get upset and get it all out of your system - and then realize that the marriage is more important than the anniversary.
If it's really about the cost, the coincidence of dates wouldn't matter. I think you're being selfish, yes, but then again I am not particularly attached to that stuff. A year or two ago I let ours sneak up on me and almost overlooked it altogether.
Yeah, but we've been married awhile I can imagine I would have had similar feelings back on the "first".
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How close is your husband to this friend and what does he say he wants?
