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I get a text from a friend of mine that turned down my advances to her in May. We went on a trip together to another city a few hours away for a fitness expo, something we are both interested in.
I've known her for two years and I've been her first friend since moving here. I was always very physically and mentally attracted to her, but she was married. I had to keep my distance at one point because I knew she was someone I could never have.
So time passed and she later tells me that she is getting a divorce and she wanted me to go on this trip. A hotel room by myself with her.
It got awkward driving back with her. I told her that she gave MANY physical and verbal cues to me. I wasn't upset but I felt I shouldn't have had to tell this to an adult on how to behave. I have not been the only man who made these comments, but I was her closest friend.
She apologized and I'm not mad but I don't think she understands where I'm coming from.
I don't have much animosity towards her, but I'm not certain if I can just be "friends" with her considering that I'm sexually attracted to her and I CANNOT control it.
It's up to you. As for me, I have never really value a woman's friendship. It was just something there. If it wasn't, I wasn't going to cry about it. I never had that kind of bond with ladies as far as friendship goes. Deep, deep friendship usually run on the guy friends for me. The only female that I value as a true friend is my wife. If she wasn't my wife, I wouldn't care much for her friendship either.
So, yeah up to you. But honestly, can you stand watching her going out with other people over the years and she comes crying to you every time something goes wrong? You are good enough to have a shoulder to cry on but not good enough...............Yeah!
Tell her that you can't be friends with her because you have feelings for her. Be willing to let her walk away.
If you do this, she may very well walk away, but she may also re-evaluate her feelings and want to enter into something more serious. Both have happened to me. Either way, you will have your answer with no further time wasted.
What's up with all these people trying to be "friends" with people they want to screw?!?
Sure seems like a lot of wasted time and involvement chasing your tail for the prosect of sex
I would tell her I cannot be friends with her because I want more from our relationship than friendship offers and be done with it.
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