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Man only a couple girls was more than the first date. I don't know about some of this months and months BS. Any chick who has a XXX number of dates rule generally has lots of issues. Just let it happen.
No, I just don't agree with those parts. I want it to develop from a friendship. Doing it that way does work for a lot of people.
Unfortunately neither method will work for me because my body and personality are not very attractive. But I strongly prefer the "expand your social circle" method to the "spend time for romantic purposes with people for whom you don't have romantic feelings" method.
It has nothing to do with you not being attractive... your way is just a very terrible way to go about finding someone.
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It has nothing to do with you not being attractive... your way is just a very terrible way to go about finding someone.
Again, people do it. Not just me. In fact, the girl I liked whom I felt so depressed when she got married, she met the husband at the gym, knowing him for a while that way, not by dating random people who weren't in her life and for whom she had no feelings. So it's not so terrible.
I'm just someone for whom no method will work because my body and my personality are both not appealing for romantic purposes.
For platonic purposes, yes. I have female friends, women say I am nice. But that doesn't necessarily mean they want to go beyond the platonic realm.
Again, people do it. Not just me. In fact, the girl I liked whom I felt so depressed when she got married, she met the husband at the gym, knowing him for a while that way, not by dating random people who weren't in her life and for whom she had no feelings. So it's not so terrible.
That friend of your got to know a random dude at the gym while you were busy wasting your time fantasizing about a "friend".
Gain some self worth and you won't have that problem.
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That friend of your got to know a random dude at the gym
Yes, but to my knowledge they did not date before they had known each other for a while. He wasn't someone she looked up on OLD or that he saw her and asked her out immediately. He had interacted with her for a while on a platonic basis. Which is how I want to do it. That's how I did it with that one woman in college, who later wanted to meet for a drink to catch up, only we couldn't make it happen (I knew, but couldn't say, when the boat was coming into san diego), and I tend to believe the meeting was to be platonic, like our other meetings in the past.
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Gain some self worth and you won't have that problem.
Oh I find myself to be a good person. I have a relatively high iq, I was in the Navy, I've saved people from bad situations, etc.
But how I feel about myself doesn't cause other people to feel romantically drawn to my personality. I can't change what is in the hearts of others. All the women I liked who didn't like me back, I think they are wonderful people. I would do anything for them. But I still feel sad that no one has ever reciprocated my feelings and probably no one ever will.
Such a depressing subject and it is late, time to log off.
It's a pretty rare situation for me to wait longer than 2 dates. It happens, but it's rare.
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