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I feel rejected aka useless and a failure.. like whats wrong with me that I am so undesirable. Irritated at the situation.
Don't beat yourself up over this. The person who behaves in such a manner is acting very selfishly and could care less about showing signs of interest in you and then just walking away or feeding you a line of BS. I had something similar happen to me (to a lesser extent) earlier in the year and it was very frustrating. It reflects more on her than you.
I'm sorry this happened to you, but hopefully you will learn from it. What you'll hopefully learn is to be more cynical and less trusting but, these days, that's not necessarily a bad thing.
Her-
Just got out of a relationship
Likes you enough to go out on a date with you
May like you more than just an average Joe
Still hurt from a break-up (I don't think feeling hurt is being selfish)
She's be MORE selfish if she pretended to be happy with you and wanted to take this further, when she was still head over heals over someone else, and using you as an emotional void or scapegoat to avoid loneliness.. settling is the word.
I don't see how her honesty can be so misconstrued.
I see you're taking this very personally, because you're also hurt. But, in hindsight, she dated you. She probably felt like she could want to get to know you more, but may feel... not so much herself, not together.. when someone is emotional shaken up, they need time to settle down. She can't be there for you emotionally if she's still torn apart.
If you want to date others, then by all means do so, but please do not feel as though she used you. Using you takes on a whole other level of "emotionally not being there" and "being physically there but not there, there."
I feel rejected aka useless and a failure.. like whats wrong with me that I am so undesirable. Irritated at the situation.
Don't take it so personally. Be thankful that it happened this way. You could have be really hurt if she said nothing, then realized that you didn't work out for her or that she still cares about her BF OR they get back together.
do you guys think there is at least a chance of us ever happening?
I am taking it personally and normally I never take it this personally but I have serious self esteem issues and when something like this happens it destroys me all over again. I can't help but think whats wrong with me physically or mentally or socially and how bad it must be to make someone not desire me.. Its happened in the past (rejection) BUT not from someone I connected so personally with so quickly with. OUCH. I know its the situation that is causing this or at least I hope it is.
But I Do know that when some girls say "I don't want a relationship right now." it literally translates to "I don't like you at all, please get away from me and never date me again"
and I hope that it is an honest statement unlike the one above..
do you guys think there is at least a chance of us ever happening?
I am taking it personally and normally I never take it this personally but I have serious self esteem issues and when something like this happens it destroys me all over again. I can't help but think whats wrong with me physically or mentally or socially and how bad it must be to make someone not desire me.. Its happened in the past (rejection) BUT not from someone I connected so personally with so quickly with. OUCH. I know its the situation that is causing this or at least I hope it is.
But I Do know that when some girls say "I don't want a relationship right now." it literally translates to "I don't like you at all, please get away from me and never date me again"
and I hope that it is an honest statement unlike the one above..
I would be surprised if something materializes in the future.
It's good that you're having these experiences; they toughen you up and help you develop thicker skin. Ther'e's no reason to lose sleep about this situation. Let her go.
I would be surprised if something materializes in the future.
It's good that you're having these experiences; they toughen you up and help you develop thicker skin. Ther'e's no reason to lose sleep about this situation. Let her go.
do you guys think there is at least a chance of us ever happening?
I am taking it personally and normally I never take it this personally but I have serious self esteem issues and when something like this happens it destroys me all over again. I can't help but think whats wrong with me physically or mentally or socially and how bad it must be to make someone not desire me.. Its happened in the past (rejection) BUT not from someone I connected so personally with so quickly with. OUCH. I know its the situation that is causing this or at least I hope it is.
But I Do know that when some girls say "I don't want a relationship right now." it literally translates to "I don't like you at all, please get away from me and never date me again"
and I hope that it is an honest statement unlike the one above..
Is there hope? I think so.
You mention you feel rejection. A lot of people do as a part of life, but don't let it pull them down.
Just because a relationship with someone doesn't work out, it's not a poor reflection of you or your capabilities.. just means two people didn't work out. No harm done. You may still work out, and it's partly a part of your own perception of your situation that can change your circumstance.
If I were in your shoes, I'd continue on with my life. Engage in things I'm passionate about. Don't take it personally.
Stay positive and focused. And, if she see's that you are chill and laid-back even after all that's said and done, she'll see confidence which will more likely get her to feel safe like she can trust you and want to be with you, because you are patient and not insecure.
Would be surprised if things between you and her did move forward in the future.
That was a nice way of saying that, IMO, it's best to move on.
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