Would you rather have a great career or a great spouse? (girlfriend, marriage)
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Exactly!! Its the PASSION that makes it great. Not earning millions of dollars. Its being able to make a career out of something that you are passion about that makes life fantastic. THAT is what makes a great career.
I don't think that's what was meant by the question. I would choose a great spouse over a great career because I don't need my passion to be my career in order for it to be my passion. My passion is my career - but even if it wasn't "great" - I would be okay. I would not be okay with out my husband.
I don't think that's what was meant by the question. I would choose a great spouse over a great career because I don't need my passion to be my career in order for it to be my passion. My passion is my career - but even if it wasn't "great" - I would be okay. I would not be okay with out my husband.
I see.
My happiness is derived from who I am as a person, and what I do and get out of life. Its a kind of a self-enlightenment type of thing. My happiness is NOT the result of, or defined by the the person I married. Sure it helps, and my wife is GREAT, but happiness comes from within, its self created, self nurtured. I personally just think its a mistake to rely on others for happiness. When you are happy with yourself, and who you are as a person and "being", you WILL attract great people into your life.
This is assuming your career is one that will last until you retire and the spouse would be married with you unto death. Not saying you can only choose one but not the other, I am asking which is more important to you. I think men will choose career because with great careers come great spouses and men tend to be more career oriented then women. For women having a great career doesn't attract a great man. In some cases it can have the opposite effect because some men might feel inadequate if she is more professionally successful then he is.
This is assuming your career is one that will last until you retire and the spouse would be married with you unto death. Not saying you can only choose one but not the other, I am asking which is more important to you. I think men will choose career because with great careers come great spouses and men tend to be more career oriented then women. For women having a great career doesn't attract a great man. In some cases it can have the opposite effect because some men might feel inadequate if she is more professionally successful then he is.
I have both but if I had to choose I would choose my Husband over any job without hesitation or doubt.
I should say though that I don't agree with your logic, men and woman can have both and do have both and I further disagree with your "women having a great career doesn't attract a great man" theory.
If a man feels inadequate because of a woman's career that is his issue alone and has nothing to do with her.
I'm only 22 and for me right now, it's my career. If 10 or 20 years down the road and I'm still not married, then my opinion would probably change. Right now though, my dreams/goals matter more than a guy since I've spent my life studying to get where I am.
Careers come and go. (Assuming you are versitle and do not pigeonhold yourself to one way of being)
Great people are hard to come by.
It really depends on how much you value others that are not yourself. Something that in and of itself flows with circumstance and time. Priorities will always shift depending on where you are in life.
That said, the question presented isn't a consideration for me. I wouldn't accept one over the other, I have no reason to when both are completely achievable at the same time.
The only thing that separates the two is circumstance and willingness.
Last edited by rego00123; 10-24-2014 at 02:23 AM..
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Its the PASSION that makes it great. Not earning millions of dollars. Its being able to make a career out of something that you are passion about that makes life fantastic. THAT is what makes a great career.
