Online dating and attracting much younger men (marriage, women, kids)

[LowonLuck]

I have been attempting online dating since the beginning of July. I am 35 and I have been looking in the 30-39 range. I have been on about 25 dates from this source. Two I would go out a second time. One, I went out with 3-4 times, right up until he brought drugs to my house. I did go out with two men in their mid 40's, the conclusion was just eww. I don't do old.

The men in my age range are just weird cats. They are either pissed off at women or have other issues. I can't get away from them fast enough.

I have a lot of 22-29 year olds messaging me and up until recently I was just ignoring them. Now I am thinking why not...

Ultimately I want a long term relationship that leads to marriage. Are 22-29 year olds able to even offer this. Or am I just asking to have my heart broke yet again?

My sons father was 6 years younger and we would have worked out if he was a happy person and not looking for happiness in the next woman. We matched in looks, activity level, interests, etc.

What am I missing? Should I be giving the 22-29 year olds a chance?

[YaFace]

Those guys will probably be immature (all the sex they know is from porn) or looking to just score. You can find marriage minded guys, buuuut they might be pushovers, boring dudes, or you will have to mold them (which you might like) so good luck.

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by LowonLuck

I have been attempting online dating since the beginning of July. I am 35 and I have been looking in the 30-39 range. I have been on about 25 dates from this source. Two I would go out a second time. One, I went out with 3-4 times, right up until he brought drugs to my house. I did go out with two men in their mid 40's, the conclusion was just eww. I don't do old.

The men in my age range are just weird cats. They are either pissed off at women or have other issues. I can't get away from them fast enough.

I have a lot of 22-29 year olds messaging me and up until recently I was just ignoring them. Now I am thinking why not...

Ultimately I want a long term relationship that leads to marriage. Are 22-29 year olds able to even offer this. Or am I just asking to have my heart broke yet again?

My sons father was 6 years younger and we would have worked out if he was a happy person and not looking for happiness in the next woman. We matched in looks, activity level, interests, etc.

What am I missing? Should I be giving the 22-29 year olds a chance?

bolded = Yes I think you should. I have been told by an older gal pal of mine that If I were a dude, I would be a catch. Don't let age define you or limit you. She is much older, but she would date me (If I were a dude) haha

Life is too short, have some fun.

[LowonLuck]

Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981

bolded = Yes I think you should. I am 29 I have been told by an older gal pal of mine that If I were a dude, I would be a catch. Don't let age define you or limit you.

And I guess the main thing that concerns me is I won't be longterm for them because I already have kids and they generally do not.

[YaFace]

Also, these dudes will think they are doing you a favor, might be sorta lazy in the bedroom.

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by LowonLuck

And I guess the main thing that concerns me is I won't be longterm for them because I already have kids and they generally do not.

I think the older men can have the same problem. If dating too young makes you uncomfortable (understandable), maybe start with dating somebody your age or a little bit younger, 29 to 34 year old.

You are only 35. You are still very young.

[YonqueD]

Originally Posted by LowonLuck

I have been attempting online dating since the beginning of July. I am 35 and I have been looking in the 30-39 range. I have been on about 25 dates from this source. Two I would go out a second time. One, I went out with 3-4 times, right up until he brought drugs to my house. I did go out with two men in their mid 40's, the conclusion was just eww. I don't do old.

The men in my age range are just weird cats. They are either pissed off at women or have other issues. I can't get away from them fast enough.

I have a lot of 22-29 year olds messaging me and up until recently I was just ignoring them. Now I am thinking why not...

Ultimately I want a long term relationship that leads to marriage. Are 22-29 year olds able to even offer this. Or am I just asking to have my heart broke yet again?

My sons father was 6 years younger and we would have worked out if he was a happy person and not looking for happiness in the next woman. We matched in looks, activity level, interests, etc.

What am I missing? Should I be giving the 22-29 year olds a chance?

There is nothing wrong with giving younger guys a chance. They could be more emotionally mature than someone 10 - 15 years older. Everyone is different. If you find someone you like and are compatible with, then you can have "the discussion" about long term. There are not guarantees that an older man would be any more likely to want to settle down. Personally, I would not rule out anyone that I found appealing, regardless of their age.

[Raena77]

You think 40 is old? You are 35 ya know.

[stepka]

Sure give em a whirl but don't expect too much in the relationship dept. I mean, you might find one, but chances are more likely that they're looking for sex. At least you're not getting hit on as much by the much elderly men, which is the problem I have sometimes, as well as the younger men. It just goes with the territory in OLD.

[hawaiiancoconut]

Sure, young guys are always looking for a quickie. Well, I think a lot of men, regardless of age, are opportunistic; more so for the young buckaroos.