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Old 11-19-2014, 12:30 PM
 
Location: California side of the Sierras
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Some men don't have the opportunity. I know I never did. Not every guy is going to have had the same experiences as others.
You have never once seen a female you found attractive? Or every single time you did, she was with another man?

 
Old 11-19-2014, 12:31 PM
 
Location: California side of the Sierras
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True. While I am an introvert the rest doesn't describe me. I know that wasn't your intent but I thought I would add it anyway.

You're right, it was not my intent. I was thinking of some men I know IRL.
 
Old 11-19-2014, 12:33 PM
 
Location: California side of the Sierras
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Sorry but it does occur. Believe it or not.

As for your second sentence, if women do not approach you clearly they are not interested. I have seen this first hand with a former friend so I know not to doubt the veracity of it.
That's not true at all. In our culture, women have been conditioned to let men do the pursuing. Women who are forward risk being thought "easy".
 
Old 11-19-2014, 12:36 PM
 
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You have never once seen a female you found attractive? Or every single time you did, she was with another man?
He's one of the ones who believes there's no use approaching women, because if they found him attractive, they'd approach him themselves. If they're not approaching him, it means he's unattractive, so no use approaching. Infallible logic, isn't it?
 
Old 11-19-2014, 12:37 PM
 
Location: California side of the Sierras
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None. I know women wouldn't be interested so there is no point.
You sound like someone who does not love himself. I think that's really sad.

Will every woman be interested? No. Will some women be interested? Yes.

What has gone wrong in your life that you do not value yourself? No need to share, but think about it. Fix what is wrong. Then, enjoy the rest of your life.
 
Old 11-19-2014, 12:39 PM
 
Location: California side of the Sierras
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Elusive? No. Since I have never seen signs of interest then clearly they are disinterested.
But, YOU don't approach women when you are interested. And you are the male, the one our culture says must do the pursuing.
 
Old 11-19-2014, 12:43 PM
 
Location: California side of the Sierras
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If you actually knew me then you would realize that attention seeking is something I never do nor have desire for.

Because I tuned out one poster I refuse to take advice from anyone?
You're "tuning out" a man who dates women, and took the time to offer you some advice as to how you can do the same.
 
Old 11-19-2014, 12:44 PM
 
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You sound like someone who does not love himself. I think that's really sad.
Yes, this has been pointed out many times to this particular poster. As a parent it makes me sad too. To see a kid suffer needlessly from the negative messages bouncing around in his head, when this can be fixed with cognitive or dialectical therapy that can utterly change thought patterns.
 
Old 11-19-2014, 12:47 PM
 
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[quote=Dewdroplet76;37337533]Got it.
No you don't get it. I meant the personal pluses and minuses of the person in question.
 
Old 11-19-2014, 12:55 PM
 
Location: California side of the Sierras
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Care to elaborate?
Sure. He seemed like a nice guy at first, was polite and considerate, mildly charming. He was nice looking, had a job, his own house, seemed to have his life together. We dated for a few months, and then I began to catch glimpses of who he really was. He stopped being polite to me and started speaking in commandments. He seemed to feel he had a perfect right to do so. I didn't see it that way.

He dated regularly, but nothing ever lasted long. He wanted to get married, so it wasn't that he wasn't looking for something to last.
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