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OP, it's not necessary you. It is the dating world altogether. I'm a woman and have had no success with OLD. I never got those "800 messages a day" that people claim happen. You have to have thick skin and the ability to roll off the nonsense. I concluded it wasn't for me and shut it down, and now I just don't date at all and that is ok. I do know people that have had success, women that are fairly average but no children, and they've been able to weed through craziness and have decent dates.
OP, it's not necessary you. It is the dating world altogether. I'm a woman and have had no success with OLD. I never got those "800 messages a day" that people claim happen. You have to have thick skin and the ability to roll off the nonsense. I concluded it wasn't for me and shut it down, and now I just don't date at all and that is ok. I do know people that have had success, women that are fairly average but no children, and they've been able to weed through craziness and have decent dates.
Thank you for posting that!!
I do think that women getting inundated with lots of messages is really a myth! It may be the case for SOME women in certain geographic locales, but when you take a closer look, how many of those messages are really substantial versus just hey sexy, whassup, hi, I like your profile - tell me more about you, call me - here's my number? A friend of mine is a beautiful Latina in a major East Coast city, and her venue on OLD was unsuccessful. She got a few dates out of it, but all of them turned out to be guys with major issues and/or STDs.
So, I concur. OP, it's not necessarily you, it's the milieu of the OLD world, its population, skewed expectations on both sides, and also a bit of randomness. If your Princess Fiona is just not out there online, you could date or wait until you're blue in the face, but if she'd sign on tomorrow - bingo. Things will happen when the timing is right. And, to be a bit spiritual on this First Day of the New Year, everything do you is geared to prepare you for the encounter with the right gal. Even if it looks more like a detour than a direct path. Patience is key.
I just started old a few months ago..Being a guy who's friends are all married and no single women in my social circle plus I'm aittle shy at first I figured its a good way to break the ice for me..
I've been on a few months and have had no responses at all what was left of my self esteem is gone but I can't turn away lol
Either women on old are extremely picky or Iam hideous or perhaps both lol
OLD is just another tool to meet more people, nothing more, nothing less.
I think the combination of online and offline will give you the best result.
When I dated online, I met a lot of really good men. But dating somebody I knew for a while has proven to me the best thing I have ever done for myself. I can only speak for myself anyway.
OLD is just another tool to meet more people, nothing more, nothing less.
I think the combination of online and offline will give you the best result.
When I dated online, I met a lot of really good men. But dating somebody I knew for a while has proven to me the best thing I have ever done for myself. I can only speak for myself anyway.
But, what the complaint is there are no responses from OLD. How can you rely on it as a "combination" or a "tool to date" if you can't even get a response from another user?
But, what the complaint is there are no responses from OLD. How can you rely on it as a "combination" or a "tool to date" if you can't even get a response from another user?
can't even get ONE response from another user seems a bit extreme. There are millions of singles looking for something OLD, chances are if you are patient enough, you can find somebody.
My aunt found her new husband on match when she was in her early 40s. She had absolutely no hair at the time (stage four cancer survivor) She post her hairless photo, she showed a photo with her dog and her son (seems like she violated all these online dating rules) Guess what? She still found somebody. He is cute, an IT guy, and their marriage is still going strong.
If op cannot get ONE decent reply, maybe rewrite profile, update photos, or just be a little bit more patient.
can't even get ONE response from another user seems a bit extreme. There are millions of singles looking for something OLD, chances are if you are patient enough, you can find somebody.
My aunt found her new husband on match when she was in her early 40s. She had absolutely no hair at the time (stage four cancer survivor) She post her hairless photo, she showed a photo with her dog and her son (seems like she violated all these online dating rules) Guess what? She still found somebody. He is cute, an IT guy, and their marriage is still going strong.
If op cannot get ONE decent reply, maybe rewrite profile, update photos, or just be a little bit more patient.
I think when someone is getting 0 responses, it's usually due to them not checking the last login of a person. If they haven't logged on in 30+ days, chances are you will not be getting a response. It's also possible that it's a smaller city and less available people. Online dating works best in mid to large size cities.
I think when someone is getting 0 responses, it's usually due to them not checking the last login of a person. If they haven't logged on in 30+ days, chances are you will not be getting a response. It's also possible that it's a smaller city and less available people. Online dating works best in mid to large size cities.
It is possible and I agree.
I always think online dating is a good way to meet more people.
My guy friend kept the online profile when he was single. He checked his messages every other day and he had absolutely no expectations. He found two women to date (He has been online for 2 years now) He is cute (a bit above average), has a decent job, just an old fashioned, white boy next door.
I think when someone is getting 0 responses, it's usually due to them not checking the last login of a person. If they haven't logged on in 30+ days, chances are you will not be getting a response. It's also possible that it's a smaller city and less available people. Online dating works best in mid to large size cities.
I agree with this. Larger populations seem to offer more in terms of selection and available singles where the smaller populations give the advantage of having the pick of the litter so to speak.
I have personally had responses to messages, but maybe about 1-2% respond back. I didn't think my profile was poorly written, but that is based on my limited experience. I had photos that were tasteful and honest; I did not wear revealing clothing (what was that blog that the lady determined a woman must have cleavage showing to compete?). The messages I sent out where to people I felt were within my league. I received very, very few responses back and of the responses, 0% were truly interested in moving forward. Those responders had vague messages and did not put any effort into a conversation or even attempt at engaging.
EX:
Me: (short paragraph reflecting something in his profile)
Response: Hi. Thanks. Let me know if you want to talk sometime.
((Uh.. isn't that what I just did?))
Me: Thanks for the response. (another 1-2 sentences)
Response: [none. crickets.]
I'm sure others that have dealt with OLD have seen this. I get easily frustrated and fed up with the lack of success, so I decided it wasn't for me. The idea of OLD is good in theory, but it should not feel like pulling teeth.
The other extremely I have encountered has been just massive red flags. For example, I had one man that did sort of engage for a few responses and then disappear for the better part of a week. Oh, that's because he was in jail. For hitting his sister. While drunk. Ok, next!
When your just trying to get laid you don't care. Every man has dated "down" on a night where his right hand and porn wasn't going to cut it. Even very good looking guys
For the record, these men don't believe that they're hot and have tried getting dates with women on their level but it doesn't work because those women are too busy being bootycalls to men out of their league.
Oh geez. So it's basically all the woman's fault for wanting men above her level?
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