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Friends for 2 years. Was flirty at first, but then developed in fwb. But now, i have feelings. But i'm unsure about him. This hasnt been going on long, but i kinda want it to stop if he doesnt feel the same way. I dont know how to tell or if i should. I dont want to lose him or mess up if you know he developed feelings later.
Yes it surely can. I've had three FWB in my life and like you with one I wanted more but she did not. That's just the way it goes with these things there is always that possibility. I do think it's important to find out soon if he feels the same or things could get really messy. I'd just be honest with him but be prepared that his feelings are not the same.
If you are harboring feelings for him this long, your never going to be happy until you have answers. Why live in this mystery?
I think you should speak to him, express that you have developed feelings and desire to pursue a more romantic relationship.
The real risk here is him not sharing your feelings, and it ending th FWB situation. However, if that is not satisfying to you now anyway, your not risking much.
Yes it surely can. I've had three FWB in my life and like you with one I wanted more but she did not. That's just the way it goes with these things there is always that possibility. I do think it's important to find out soon if he feels the same or things could get really messy. I'd just be honest with him but be prepared that his feelings are not the same.
How would you go about it? I really want to stop it if he doesnt before too much time passes and I get even more hurt.
Alot people are saying "give him time" to get feelings ...But i'm not sure about that
If you are harboring feelings for him this long, your never going to be happy until you have answers. Why live in this mystery?
I think you should speak to him, express that you have developed feelings and desire to pursue a more romantic relationship.
The real risk here is him not sharing your feelings, and it ending th FWB situation. However, if that is not satisfying to you now anyway, your not risking much.
Your right because truly i don't want a fwb, I'm just going along with it, so I can figure out what to say to him.
Its kind of confusing. He always flirted with me then i was drunk asked him if he'd ever want to hook up again then time passed we did now its a fwb. I feel like I got myself into it and he thinks i wanted this and didnt like him like that when i do. I mean he was always and sometimes still asks me how my day is and what i'm up to etc.
How would you go about it? I really want to stop it if he doesnt before too much time passes and I get even more hurt.
Alot people are saying "give him time" to get feelings ...But i'm not sure about that
I definitely wouldn't wait around hoping he comes around. I'd get it out in the open as soon as possible so you can proceed one way or the other. In my case, I told her that I wanted more but she did not. She was also in the process of moving to another country at the time, but even so I knew for sure. I think the longer you wait the more difficult it will be.
I definitely wouldn't wait around hoping he comes around. I'd get it out in the open as soon as possible so you can proceed one way or the other. In my case, I told her that I wanted more but she did not. She was also in the process of moving to another country at the time, but even so I knew for sure. I think the longer you wait the more difficult it will be.
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How would you go about it? I really want to stop it if he doesnt before too much time passes and I get even more hurt.
Alot people are saying "give him time" to get feelings ...But i'm not sure about that
If you're needing it to be more to be satisfied with it, then stop. Using FWBs as a way to get a relationship with that person is not a good idea, for you, or for the other person. You're not being emotionally honest.
Good chances are, there's one person in FWB relationship that ends up wanting more. And more than often, it doesn't end well.
There's a reason why it started off as F-buddies, and not a traditional relationship.
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