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Ever since I started paying attention to toxic friendships and how certain people acted with me (to which I reacted negatively or didn't feel good)... I seem to have lost a lot of friends. And changed my views on friendship.
Two of my friends I've realized are quite catty, which I had a lot of trouble dealing with and I've decided to not talk to them anymore. Another friend I think basically uses me for information (and I get info from her too) but it's more about selfish interests than truly getting to know each other outside of school-related things. And another friend from school was making an issue over something stupid... and I got annoyed... thus changing my perception of her as well.
Basically I've realized I don't really have any true friends, in the sense that they're with me through thick and thin beyond their own interests. Everything just seems really shallow. People seem really shallow. In general. It always seems to be about "what's in it for me"
Anybody else feel this way or have any thoughts?
I feel like my entire world view on friendship has changed. I think for the good though, I'm a lot more centered/less clingy/more focused on myself more now. But I feel bittersweet when I think about the old more naive, more genuine, more giving me of the past
Yeah agree some friends you need to get rid of. Some of mine get irked by me because I don't like going to those crappy local dives. Or a party I know I will know only a few people. Or invite me over just to help them do work at their house. I usually ignore their calls.
Ever since I started paying attention to toxic friendships and how certain people acted with me (to which I reacted negatively or didn't feel good)... I seem to have lost a lot of friends. And changed my views on friendship.
Two of my friends I've realized are quite catty, which I had a lot of trouble dealing with and I've decided to not talk to them anymore. Another friend I think basically uses me for information (and I get info from her too) but it's more about selfish interests than truly getting to know each other outside of school-related things. And another friend from school was making an issue over something stupid... and I got annoyed... thus changing my perception of her as well.
Basically I've realized I don't really have any true friends, in the sense that they're with me through thick and thin beyond their own interests. Everything just seems really shallow. People seem really shallow. In general. It always seems to be about "what's in it for me"
Anybody else feel this way or have any thoughts?
I feel like my entire world view on friendship has changed. I think for the good though, I'm a lot more centered/less clingy/more focused on myself more now. But I feel bittersweet when I think about the old more naive, more genuine, more giving me of the past
I understand what you're talking about.
I would rather be alone than deal with fake superficial people.
The first step to changing your circle of friends is to recognize the signs when you're being used. Real friends are not users.
Once you get rid of the excess baggage you can focus on yourself and what's important to you. Genuine friends develop over time.
Hello. I've experienced catty "friends" before. You should read The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene: a lot of people are on severely deluded power trips: power is more gratifying than friendship to such people. You are just a tool or a pawn to such people. At least you will know what to beware of.
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Originally Posted by sydney1987
Ever since I started paying attention to toxic friendships and how certain people acted with me (to which I reacted negatively or didn't feel good)... I seem to have lost a lot of friends. And changed my views on friendship.
Two of my friends I've realized are quite catty, which I had a lot of trouble dealing with and I've decided to not talk to them anymore. Another friend I think basically uses me for information (and I get info from her too) but it's more about selfish interests than truly getting to know each other outside of school-related things. And another friend from school was making an issue over something stupid... and I got annoyed... thus changing my perception of her as well.
Basically I've realized I don't really have any true friends, in the sense that they're with me through thick and thin beyond their own interests. Everything just seems really shallow. People seem really shallow. In general. It always seems to be about "what's in it for me"
Anybody else feel this way or have any thoughts?
I feel like my entire world view on friendship has changed. I think for the good though, I'm a lot more centered/less clingy/more focused on myself more now. But I feel bittersweet when I think about the old more naive, more genuine, more giving me of the past
What the heck is wrong with you? First you hijack my thread with five gazillion posts and now the facepalm? What gives you the right to be so unnecessarily condescending?
Actually you have the right to be as condescending as you wish but you should know you look like an *** in the process.
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