"Take care" ending to first date (how to, guys, attracted)
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I went on a first date tonight with a guy I met online. We met at a bar, and in total the date lasted for 1.5 hours (until 11pm). I really enjoyed his company and he seemed to truly enjoy mine as he was laughing and the conversation was flowing easily. We had things to talk about. I really felt we had a connection and I liked him. However, there was no overt flirtation or compliments.
He ordered a glass of wine for each of us, and when we finished (very slowly) he didn't order another or ask if I wanted one. We just sat for a half hour drinking nothing and talking, which I found odd and kind of rude of him not to offer. There was an empty water vessel at the table which he didn't ask to refill when I had been drinking a lot of water and was parched. When I came out of the bathroom for the second time, I discovered that he had paid the check at the bar and had his coat on ready to leave, saying it was a "school night" and he had work in the morning. When we walked out, I believe he was planning on just walking the other direction until I stopped. At that point he gave me a very distant hug and said "Good meeting you, take care." This whole abruptness at the end and his choice of words left me very confused. Why was he acting like he enjoyed himself the whole date (laughing, engaging in discussion, even staying 1.5 hours) if he didn't?
I feel so embarrassed by this apparent rejection and am left wondering what I did wrong on the date.
Hmm. Well, some people use "take care" as a substitute for "good bye". I would assume that if he were driving, or you were both driving, he would not order more wine for either of you. Or, like you said, he had to work. But to not have more water is kinda odd.
I don't think he was acting like he was having a good time. Sounds like he genuinely enjoyed the night with you.
The abruptness in which it ended has me confused too though.
Not so sure it was a rejection, either. Follow up with him. See if he'd like another date. That'll give you your answer.
More than one glass of wine may be too much for him.
You could have asked for the water to be refilled.
Some use take care instead of goodbye.
Wait and see if he contacts you, if not move on.
take care means thanks but no thanks
you did nothing wrong...there was just no connection for him...you barely know him and have no idea what he is looking for...maybe he was just looking for a hookup and realized you weren't easy...it could be a GOOD thing...move on!
I would say all signs point to he is not into you. The length of time he stayed doesn't mean anything - he might have not known how to end the evening and the fact that he paid the bill ready to leave when you went to the ladies is pretty significant.
As others have said don't worry about it, someone else will come along.
You didnt do anything wrong. He enjoyed having the company for the night and a guy will have a converaation even without being attracted to the other person.
Id say he isnt attracted to you and not interested. No problem, there are guys who will be into you. Win some lose some.
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