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Old 06-04-2015, 08:49 AM
 
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My ex-boyfriend is 29 years old and I'm 25. It's not like we are young. We were quite serious, even thinking about our future with each other. We were together for about 7 months until we ended it. It led to me not trusting him because he was still in contact with his ex-gf as well going on dates with other girls. However, he said these things to me while we dated. Did he mean these or was he just playing me?

"You really help me think a lot about myself, not sure what triggered it. But I’ve been in self reflection mode since meeting you. You bring the old me back, the adventurous, energetic e, ambitious, me. I didn’t want to like someone and wasn’t even looking to want to like someone. But it’s funny how life works because I think when you want something, it almost blinds you. But when you’re not looking for something, at times, it’s almost really clear. I want to say…wait..have to give myself a good shake..

I’m kind of scared. I'm falling so hard. I’ve always been a guy who likes to reason things out, head over heart. I’m never quick to speak but I listen first and think and then respond. Because I always felt like thinking rationally is to think with your head and not with your heart. But it’s crazy because I like you a lot. As I’m getting to know you I’m liking you more and more. So this obviously new territory for me. I’ve never felt like this before with any girl.."

if he meant these, why did he still talk to his ex-gf who was going back to her country? why did he say these things to me??

 
Old 06-04-2015, 09:38 AM
 
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You can't be played if you don't allow yourself to be played with.
 
Old 06-04-2015, 09:42 AM
 
Location: NYC
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http://www.city-data.com/forum/relat...g-love-me.html

Does this thread ring a bell?
 
Old 06-04-2015, 09:43 AM
 
Location: Sugarmill Woods , FL
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You can't be played if you don't allow yourself to be played with.
Got to agree!
 
Old 06-04-2015, 09:48 AM
 
Location: Europe
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Originally Posted by sunnysunny1 View Post
he was still in contact with his ex-gf as well going on dates with other girls.
What is wrong with you women... At least make sure your guy has a one girl at the time. Don't women appreciate and honor themselves a bit anymore?
 
Old 06-04-2015, 10:44 AM
 
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And this one:

http://www.city-data.com/forum/relat...ther-girl.html

And this one:

http://www.city-data.com/forum/relat...him-think.html

Last edited by carnivalday; 06-04-2015 at 11:01 AM..
 
Old 06-04-2015, 12:42 PM
 
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Originally Posted by sunnysunny1 View Post
My ex-boyfriend is 29 years old and I'm 25. It's not like we are young. We were quite serious, even thinking about our future with each other. We were together for about 7 months until we ended it. It led to me not trusting him because he was still in contact with his ex-gf as well going on dates with other girls. However, he said these things to me while we dated. Did he mean these or was he just playing me?

"You really help me think a lot about myself, not sure what triggered it. But I’ve been in self reflection mode since meeting you. You bring the old me back, the adventurous, energetic e, ambitious, me. I didn’t want to like someone and wasn’t even looking to want to like someone. But it’s funny how life works because I think when you want something, it almost blinds you. But when you’re not looking for something, at times, it’s almost really clear. I want to say…wait..have to give myself a good shake..

I’m kind of scared. I'm falling so hard. I’ve always been a guy who likes to reason things out, head over heart. I’m never quick to speak but I listen first and think and then respond. Because I always felt like thinking rationally is to think with your head and not with your heart. But it’s crazy because I like you a lot. As I’m getting to know you I’m liking you more and more. So this obviously new territory for me. I’ve never felt like this before with any girl.."

if he meant these, why did he still talk to his ex-gf who was going back to her country? why did he say these things to me??
some guys will say anything to get you to sleep with them. kinda better to use the mute button sometimes and observe actions.

never felt like this before? what is he stupid or something? or maybe just lying to all the others except you?
 
Old 06-04-2015, 12:44 PM
 
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Good Lord.

OP have you ever heard of a Player?

Your ex sounds like he thinks he's one, and the notches on his belt says he's right.

The problem here is you need to move on.
 
Old 06-04-2015, 12:56 PM
 
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No, he's not. By the way, why do you still care since it's an EX?
 
Old 06-04-2015, 01:09 PM
 
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Why do people start a bunch of threads about the same situation???
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