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If you guys read my last story about my ex, then I have decided what I am going to do and I want all of your opinions. So, go to my last thread and read it. What I am going to do is I am going to text her and say "Hey I've been thinking about the last time we talked and I'm gonna keep my options open moving forward, just like what you have been doing, and just see what happens" That's it. She's always been used to me giving her attention for the past year, and when it is not there, I believe it will open her eyes to what she is missing. I am doing this for myself, not because I want her back, but because I cannot wait around forever for somebody who is not 100% down for me. If she was down for me, then she would obviously tell me. So, I am going to be straight up and tell her this sooner or later. Let me know what you think about this, and give me your honest opinion on her reaction.
A couple things. Are you really going to be available for other women, or are you going to be with one and wishing you were with someone else? If you're genuinely going to try to move on and get her out of your mind, okay. I wouldn't rush into anything. But if you just want your ex to be jealous and to win her back that way, it's not right to lead women on like that. What if you meet someone who really likes you but doesn't know she has no chance with you?
Secondly, do you really need to announce this to her? Be careful with this kind of declaration. It can look like a flounce ("I'll show YOU, so nyah!") and it can fall flat on its face. If she says, "OK, bye," or doesn't have the jealous/sorry reaction you hope for, is that better than if you had just left it alone?
If you guys read my last story about my ex, then I have decided what I am going to do and I want all of your opinions. So, go to my last thread and read it. What I am going to do is I am going to text her and say "Hey I've been thinking about the last time we talked and I'm gonna keep my options open moving forward, just like what you have been doing, and just see what happens" That's it. She's always been used to me giving her attention for the past year, and when it is not there, I believe it will open her eyes to what she is missing. I am doing this for myself, not because I want her back, but because I cannot wait around forever for somebody who is not 100% down for me. If she was down for me, then she would obviously tell me. So, I am going to be straight up and tell her this sooner or later. Let me know what you think about this, and give me your honest opinion on her reaction.
If your plan backfires and she is still indifferent will you move on with your life?
Of course! If she shows that she doesn't care what I do, then I am going to do it. This is kind of like closure for me because I am sick of just waiting, and if I wait too long, she will grow feelings on this other guy I bet.
This is why I am doing this in the first place. It's all for closure.. I have always wanted ever since I met her to right now (kind of). I do not want to wait for somebody who does not want me. So, I am just going to be straight up with her and tell her I am keeping my options open (basically doing what she is doing). She cannot get mad at me because she is doing this as well, and that will make her a hypocrite. Also, I feel like she will grow feelings for the other guy she is talking to if I just keep on waiting.
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