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You go on a handful of OLD dates with a guy, who you're not necessarily crazy about but the dates go pretty well. He then stops reaching out to you, just kind of falls off the face of the earth. And then, a couple months later, all of sudden he's back. He's texting you, asking you how you are...and inevitably asks you out on another date.
Do you accept?
I didn't.
I asked him, why are you back now? Why now? To which he had zero response. I mean, at least try to justify it!
You are an option now. Unfortunately, guys are not as complex as girls.
Another guy justified it by saying, "I didn't think you were that into me, which is why I didn't contact you after the date. But I want to give it another try now". Riiiiight.
guys don't want to hurt their chances by telling you they had the hots for some other girl and when it doesn't work out they come back to you.
If he seemed decent , you should have given him another shot.
A decent guy would at least text to let you know the deal. People who pull the fade should not expect second chances, especially if they can't even come up with a good excuse when they reappear! I wouldn't want to fall for someone who would behave like this. Alternatively, he might be hoping for a quick lay.
If you were not "necessarily crazy about" him why waste more time trying to figure out what his intentions are?
Since it is early here, and I cannot sleep....and I have a little time to "waste", I'll go for it..
I'll bet he picked up on you not being all that interested in him...little signs like body language and comments you made when together may have given him that impression "you just were not all that into him" and he moved on. Then he may have contacted you when he didn't meet "Ms. Right" right away, and he contacted "Ms. Will Do Until Ms. Right Comes Along".
Nope. I remember another thread about this. So many of us had similar experiences where guys would circle back around months, even YEARS after they had dumped or disappeared on us. My perspective is "you had your chance."
Enjoy the date if it's a month later who cares!! Enjoy the date!! Be happy you got called for a date. I'm sure there are plenty of ladies that would be happy to even get a date.
If a person (man or woman) isn't into you enough to stick around, I say tell them no second chances. I never give anyone a second chance (especially those who left me). Why waste time with someone who already proved unreliable or incompatible with you when there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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