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I guess I'm here to vent. This evening my husband and I brought our dog to the vet because it's obvious he was sick, we got news that his kidney were shutting down. He's there overnight for treatment and more tests. I burst into tears and haven't stopped crying since.
I have had my dog since he was a puppy. I met my husband about 5 years ago. I know my husband loves our dog but he has not shown any emotion. I can't even eat. But he ate everything in the fridge.
I love dogs, but his lack of emotion could be tied to vet bills.
I have a friend who dumped $4k into an elderly dog that still died 2 months later. It did not matter that the condition was terminal, reason and common sense went out the window.
I guess I'm here to vent. This evening my husband and I brought our dog to the vet because it's obvious he was sick, we got news that his kidney were shutting down. He's there overnight for treatment and more tests. I burst into tears and haven't stopped crying since.
I have had my dog since he was a puppy. I met my husband about 5 years ago. I know my husband loves our dog but he has not shown any emotion. I can't even eat. But he ate everything in the fridge.
I'm really annoyed by his lack of feelings.
Why are you annoyed at your husband? Just because he is not blubbering like you are does not mean he is not feeling sad about the dog.
You cannot control how someone else shows emotion or does not show emotion, this is your issue alone.
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Not everyone treats their pets like they are children. We have 3 beautiful pets that are wonderful pets, they are fed well, medically taken care of properly, always have a safe home, plenty of toys, plenty of fresh water, plenty of attention, love and petting but they are still animals.
When they die Mr. CSD and I both will be very upset and I will end up sobbing for a while like I did when Rocky and Smudge died but it is part of life and having pets, you do lose them.
I love dogs, but his lack of emotion could be tied to vet bills.
I have a friend who dumped $4k into an elderly dog that still died 2 months later. It did not matter that the condition was terminal, reason and common sense went out the window.
10 and he is family so the cost doesn't matter. Husband wanted to do whatever it took.
... the cost doesn't matter. Husband wanted to do whatever it took.
there's your answer - your husband does care; and you have no idea what he's feeling inside right now.
If he acted that detached if a close beloved relative fell deathly ill, or he recommended euthanasia for the dog as the cheaper option, then I'd wonder about him...
You've only been married for five years. Have you seen your husband through the experience of grief? People grieve differently. He's not trying to stop you from getting the care the dog needs, he's not freaking about the cost, per your words he's agreed to "do whatever it took". He's obviously concerned, he's not belittling your grief, he is just processing the situation in a different manner than you are. Allow him that, you can't control how someone else processes their emotions.
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Sorry he doesn't show grief the way you do, nor how you think he should. After five years you'd think you'd have an idea of how he shows emotion.
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