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So last night, I was just playing around on Facebook when I got a message from..... let's say a friend of my friend. I've met the dude at a couple of parties but I don't know him that well. So I got a DM last night from him and he asks me straight up "you are a cool dude, I ain't judging; but are you gay?" I say a straight no for that question. Needless to say, that question rubbed me the wrong way. Personally, I feel that is no one's business but mine.
I don't talk about dating or girls at all. My dating life is non-existent, simply due to wanting to avoid rejection, not because I haven't seen girls that are attractive to me. This is not the first time I've been asked or been accused of being gay. It seems like I cannot be a tall black man and speak proper English, dress well, be well-spoken and be shy without being gay.
So to the gallery, would you think it is appropriate at all to ask someone if they are gay if you suspect so?
I would say it might be ok if he was attracted to you and wanted to ask you out? Or even if it was a girl who thought you were hot and wanted to know if you were available.
Perhaps he wanted to know if you are available and he is interested if you are or he may want to introduce you to a friend who could be male or female.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by aneye4detail
I would say it might be ok if he was attracted to you and wanted to ask you out? Or even if it was a girl who thought you were hot and wanted to know if you were available.
It's a straight guy who is in a relationship who asked me. Even so, asking that question, where I grew up, would be grounds for an a*&-whuppin.
I would only ask if it pertained to the conversation at hand, I don't need to know your sexual orientation for a simple talk about anything that doesnt directly deal with sex or sexuality of that indivual
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