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If you're reasonably young, do you have a traditional relationship where the man is the primary breadwinner and the woman stays home, without or kids? Why or why not?
If you're reasonably young, do you have a traditional relationship where the man is the primary breadwinner and the woman stays home, without or kids? Why or why not?
Me and my girlfriend just started dating. The age difference is 5 years and we both work but she makes more money than I do.
I guess we kind of do have a "traditional" arrangement, with modifications. I worked while he finished college, and continued to work until we had our first kid. I've been home since then (although if I had to do it all over again I would have kept working part time), but I've also been using the time to finish my degree, as well as doing internships and freelance work. I'll be done with school next year, just in time for the youngest to start kindergarten, and at that point I will happily be going back to work.
My husband and I are under 40 and we have what is considered a modified "traditional" marriage. We both worked when we got married and after a year I became pregnant; I worked until I was about 8 months along, went on maternity leave and then became a stay-at-home mom and I haven't looked back. My husband is the breadwinner (he pretty much always has been) and it works well for us. He works hard, I work hard, and we share family and household duties.
My husband actually told me that he wanted me to go back to work after our first child was going to be a few months old- that went out the window when he saw how much work a baby is and he couldn't bear the thought of our child being raised by strangers in daycare. I never intended to work outside of the home while our children were small anyway and just kept telling him to wait and see. Took him about 3 minutes after our daughter was born to realize I was right, LOL.
Well, I'm under 40 (barely) but my husband is over 40 - do we still count? He is the breadwinner and I take care of our small children. It works for us. We were in the same field of work and it has non-traditional hours. If we were both working, neither one of us would be here to put our kids to bed 5 nights out of the week. Like I said - this is what works for us. Once the youngest is in kindergarten, I'm not sure what I'll do. I'd love to get back into performing again - but the hours would be hard on us. We just take it one step at a time!
I'm just under 40, my husband is just over. Our first child will be born in a couple of months. Our setup is a twist on traditional right now, but new for us. We've both always worked FT, but right now, he's working FT (more like FT and a half, because he's got a FT civilian job and is also a Navy Reserve senior chief), and I'm going to grad school FT. He's the primary breadwinner, b/c I'm making a stipend as a FT student. When my master's is finished, the plan is that I'll be going back to work FT.
If you're reasonably young, do you have a traditional relationship where the man is the primary breadwinner and the woman stays home, without or kids? Why or why not?
Nope, although I know she'd love it!
We are late 20s/early30s
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He is the breadwinner and I take care of our small children. It works for us. We were in the same field of work and it has non-traditional hours. If we were both working, neither one of us would be here to put our kids to bed 5 nights out of the week. Like I said - this is what works for us. Once the youngest is in kindergarten, I'm not sure what I'll do. I'd love to get back into performing again - but the hours would be hard on us. We just take it one step at a time!
