Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Just read through this whole thread and I'm glad that you sent her that simple text. It didn't ask or demand anything of her, but shows you care. Have you texted any further?
I hope you get a chance to talk in person, not text, to share what you've reflected on this week. I think you've made some important realizations, but however things go, do not sacrifice what you need out of a relationship in order to "keep" your GF.
I haven't responded back yet. I'm not sure how to respond even. I want to have the discussion in person, no doubt.
I said I was trying not to text as well, but that I caved. She said she did too. She then let me know that Thursday would work best for her to talk stuff over and that she wasn't trying to delay things, but that she has to work late Monday, has plans Tuesday and has to finish cleaning out her old apartment on Wednesday. So I think that's when we're going to have the discussion.
I said I was trying not to text as well, but that I caved. She said she did too. She then let me know that Thursday would work best for her to talk stuff over and that she wasn't trying to delay things, but that she has to work late Monday, has plans Tuesday and has to finish cleaning out her old apartment on Wednesday. So I think that's when we're going to have the discussion.
I think it was good to respond, to reconfirm that you are getting together at some point this week. Right now you are still BF/GF so it's not out of line to communicate, especially since she didn't say no contact. It would be wrong to have demands and expectations, but it's not right to sit around wondering in silence, what's going on either.
I think it was good to respond, to reconfirm that you are getting together at some point this week. Right now you are still BF/GF so it's not out of line to communicate, especially since she didn't say no contact. It would be wrong to have demands and expectations, but it's not right to sit around wondering in silence, what's going on either.
Yeah, that's the hard part. I'm hoping seeing as she still wants to have the talk, we can get through this. Part of me wants to say, "if we're just delaying the inevitable, can we just get it over with?" but I know that's not really beneficial to anything right now, especially seeing as I'm interested in us working through this.
It's just no fun waiting around in limbo, and I sense she feels the same way if she said she was thinking of me too, but trying not to text.
I hate keeping this all bottled up and I know that I can tough it out until Thursday, but do you think asking if she could listen to what I have to say on the phone, like today, is a bad move? No expectations from her, but just so I can get this off my chest and she can sort of let it soak in until we meet on Thursday?
I hate keeping this all bottled up and I know that I can tough it out until Thursday, but do you think asking if she could listen to what I have to say on the phone, like today, is a bad move? No expectations from her, but just so I can get this off my chest and she can sort of let it soak in until we meet on Thursday?
At this point I've got no clue. You mentioned she had plans on Tuesday. I thought she had plans with you on Tuesday to discuss things. Why is it ok to keep you in limbo? Totally unfair to keep you waiting. Dude, I think you deserve better. Make plans on Thursday and tell her you are unavailable. Maybe this will force you two to have the talk sooner than later. I'm not one for games, but she might be playing you?!
I hate keeping this all bottled up and I know that I can tough it out until Thursday, but do you think asking if she could listen to what I have to say on the phone, like today, is a bad move? No expectations from her, but just so I can get this off my chest and she can sort of let it soak in until we meet on Thursday?
Is it something you really want to say over the phone? I understand how you're feeling but I also think this could come across as you pushing your needs onto her again instead of respecting the boundary she's put in place.
You could say in the text that you're looking forward to seeing her Thursday and there are some things you'd like to share about your introspections this week. But unless she asks you for them now, I'd hold off.
At this point I've got no clue. You mentioned she had plans on Tuesday. I thought she had plans with you on Tuesday to discuss things. Why is it ok to keep you in limbo? Totally unfair to keep you waiting. Dude, I think you deserve better. Make plans on Thursday and tell her you are unavailable. Maybe this will force you two to have the talk sooner than later. I'm not one for games, but she might be playing you?!
I guess it's possible. I honestly don't know why should would, though. She definitely is not the typical girl in that sense, unless I have just been reading her wrong for a year.
In fairness to the situation, we were both pretty worked up this past Tuesday and I don't think we ever really said, "let's sit down next Tuesday to talk about things again." It was more along the lines of, "let's take a week and then talk."
Obviously the assumption would be that Tuesday is a week, but I don't think it was ever something written in stone. I had just sort of assumed that.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
