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I wish I could make this question not gender specific, but unfortunately with the way things are, I'm afraid it has to be.
Personally, I feel that keeping your income to yourself is the most common sense way, but each to their own.
What do you think? I've added a poll.
Given that money is one of the leading causes of divorce, keeping your income a secret is guaranteed to cause problems. I would have to ask why you would marry a person whom you can't even trust with your income?
If you can't tell you wife how much you make, she should not be your wife. It is her business because marriage is a partnership once your married your money is hers and hers is yours.
Just asking this question tells me, you are going to get a divorce, just head down to the lawyers office now and get it over with.
What is your motivation to keep it secret? I do not get how you can have an attitude of "its none of her business what my income is" within a marriage, where income and money affect every aspect and decision of a household, both for current needs and future planning.
I would think it would be impossible for the household to plan their financial futures, short term bills, mid term expenses, needs, wants, and desires, long term savings and retirement goals. If your incomes are "secret" then none of this can really happen or be planned into the operation of the house.
There are many ways to split, share, and manage finances in a marriage, but keeping income secret seems to be one sure fire way to make the household finances dysfunctional and a point of contention.
Aside from the why would you marry someone you can't trust issue, it doesn't make a lot of sense tax wise. You'd have to file separately and that usually ends up costing a lot of money in lost credits and deductions. How would you be able, for example, to itemize deductions? You'd have to know what each other is claiming because you both can't claim the same deductions. You can't claim child or depend expenses, you can't claim earned income credit, you can't claim education tax credits... and on top of that your tax rate is higher.
Honestly you are just better off not getting married.
Personally, I feel that keeping your income to yourself is the most common sense way, but each to their own.
Then what do you do at tax time???
You have no business getting married if you are scared to tell her your income.
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