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On Youtube and sometimes in real life you will find people who sell themselves as datine experts. The funny thing is that they never talk about looks -- or if they do, they say looks hardly matter -- and yet they themselves are always naturally good-looking or put a lot of effort in to looking good.
For example, here's a pair of dating experts giving us advice:
I'm not into alpha males, and never have been. These strategies wouldn't work on me. lol
And, yeah, videos like this fail to mention that looks/appearance plays a huge role and of course most would rather take dating advice from attractive people.
I don't find the man in the video to be the least bit attractive. Neither his face nor the way he is standing so arrogantly do a thing for me, and neither does the sleazy wink. Ick, ick, ick.
Is it easier for attractive people? Yes--in every aspect of life, including friendships, work, and interacting with the world. Life isn't fair, so you need to learn to work with what you've got. Start by not comparing yourself to others.
Mod cut.
Then stop comparing yourself to others.
You don't know what kind of inner demons they grapple with, or what their health status is. They could have problems that make your dating challenges seem like a walk in the park.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 08-11-2015 at 12:31 PM..
Reason: Off-topic.
I've always said attractive people giving unattractive people dating tips doesn't work..
Good looking people already have people attracted to them from the get go and their job is just too not f it up and kill the attraction by saying something stupid..
The unattractive person has to go through tons of rejection and jump through hoops having to get to know a person a long time and hope attraction eventually builds with someone just in hopes to get a first date..
I don't find the man in the video to be the least bit attractive. Neither his face nor the way he is standing so arrogantly do a thing for me, and neither does the sleazy wink. Ick, ick, ick.
Is it easier for attractive people? Yes--in every aspect of life, including friendships, work, and interacting with the world. Life isn't fair, so you need to learn to work with what you've got. Start by not comparing yourself to others.
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Then stop comparing yourself to others.
You don't know what kind of inner demons they grapple with, or what their health status is. They could have problems that make your dating challenges seem like a walk in the park.
Your advice is good, and while I disagree with the sentiment expressed in the portion I bolded, it's commonly expressed in situations like this.
While what's bolded is certainly a possibility, it's also possible that the person has good health. In fact with all the advantages good looking people have, why wouldn't their lives be a bit less stressed, their interactions with health care providers a bit more thorough, etc.
Again, none of that changes the quality of your advice. The best anyone can do is to live his or her life as is. And very good looking people have health challenges and so on, but I do think a case could be made that they have fewer, if there's any difference, so it just doesn't ring true.
On Youtube and sometimes in real life you will find people who sell themselves as datine experts. The funny thing is that they never talk about looks -- or if they do, they say looks hardly matter -- and yet they themselves are always naturally good-looking or put a lot of effort in to looking good.
Anyone can put effort into looking good. Be careful comparing that to someone who is naturally good looking.
Any general advice is just a one size fits all approach. People are not one size, and the generalized advice never fits all.
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