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In college, I met a guy who claimed he was 34. It was outside of my normal age range, but we had a nice conversation before he asked me to one of my favorite restaurants, so I said yes. When he arrived, it was painfully clear that the photo he used was at least a decade old. He acknowledged it, saying, "I guess I'm a little more rough around the edges than you expected." And then he proceeded to justify it by saying his actual range kicks him out of many womens' filters. I would guess he was early 40s at least.
I was young and overly polite, so I continued on the date. We sat down at a table when he presented me with a gift bag. Odd. Inside was a schoolgirl skirt. He asked for me to put it on. I said sure, walked toward the restroom (glancing over my shoulder to notice his eyes were glued on my tush - classy), and waited a few seconds. When I peeked out and saw that he had turned back around, I escaped through the kitchen.
He proceeded to stalk me on social media channels and sic a female "friend" of his on me. This "friend" messaged my friends and family (including my brother who was in high school at the time) claiming I had seduced this guy and gotten him to cheat on her with me. It was really awkward and horrible. I didn't date for a *long* time after that and that's why I have a bunch of safety check-ins with friends throughout first and second dates now.
Wow. How long were you with him before all of this started blabbing out?
Not to hi-jack the thread but how do you get OUT of a date that's going badly?
First I make sure I'm only meeting up for one hour, for drinks/coffee. I always tell my dates I have plans later that night if the date is going horrible. I arrive early, get my beverage of choice and wait. If I'm insulted in anyway, like I was on another date in Dallas, I grab my purse and leave. That way I've already paid for my drink and have no expectations of my date. Just end it when you want to saying you have other plans to get to.
Most of the time I've been able to give the worst of dates 60 minutes of my time then GTFO.
Since everyone is just answering to your story, I'll post mine (although I have to admit it's not as bad as yours haha).
I met this guy online,he seemed to be everything I was looking for: Cute, smart, funny. We talked online for like a week, and even though it was just online we really seemed to hit it off. We talked for hours,about a lot of stuff (everything non-sexual). He then asked me to meet and of course I said yes. When the day of our meeting arrived, he messaged me a few hours before: 'Hey, just wanted to make sure,you're up for some fun when we meet,right?' I asked him what he means (of course I knew what he means). He said that he just wants to make sure he's not wasting his time, he only wants to meet me if I can tell him (now,in a Whatsapp message, before even seeing him in person!!) that we'll hook up later tonight. I then didn't reply anymore and really couldn't believe it. I mean if he had tried to get me into bed fine, but what weirdo asks a woman he hs never met before if she can badically promise him to hook up on the first date? Lol.
I SO feel your pain. That's kind of what happened last night. Oy. I think I'd rather get a pap than date.
In college, I met a guy who claimed he was 34. It was outside of my normal age range, but we had a nice conversation before he asked me to one of my favorite restaurants, so I said yes. When he arrived, it was painfully clear that the photo he used was at least a decade old. He acknowledged it, saying, "I guess I'm a little more rough around the edges than you expected." And then he proceeded to justify it by saying his actual range kicks him out of many womens' filters. I would guess he was early 40s at least.
I was young and overly polite, so I continued on the date. We sat down at a table when he presented me with a gift bag. Odd. Inside was a schoolgirl skirt. He asked for me to put it on. I said sure, walked toward the restroom (glancing over my shoulder to notice his eyes were glued on my tush - classy), and waited a few seconds. When I peeked out and saw that he had turned back around, I escaped through the kitchen.
He proceeded to stalk me on social media channels and sic a female "friend" of his on me. This "friend" messaged my friends and family (including my brother who was in high school at the time) claiming I had seduced this guy and gotten him to cheat on her with me. It was really awkward and horrible. I didn't date for a *long* time after that and that's why I have a bunch of safety check-ins with friends throughout first and second dates now.
You win! That's horrible! I've also experienced this. A guy who claimed to be 37 showed up looking almost 50. I stumbled upon his profile again recently and he was still trying to pull off 37...our date was almost three years ago!!
Some of my worst dating experiences were being set up by other people and/or the so-called "old-fashioned" way. I can't recall any really bad experiences from OLD.
I don't know if I've had a worst but I've had some good ones.
The worst thing is it pisses me off when a man pretends to be a woman online. Not a transg or a transv but being a jerkoff.
Don't believe anything anyone says unless you've known them for at least 4 weeks. "I never sleep with anybody." Uh huh and that's why 80% of the population now has hpv and 50% now has herpes.
To get out of a date you can say I'm out of here but I would not recommend being honest. He'll try to debate it with you or explaaaaaain. Or you can go to the ladies room and be gone a really long time.
To get out of a date you can say I'm out of here but I would not recommend being honest. He'll try to debate it with you or explaaaaaain. Or you can go to the ladies room and be gone a really long time.
This is so true! This guy I wrote about even tried to defend himself after I politely told him we weren't a match. He said his friend drove him home last night, yet admitted to me last night that all his friends were getting high.
Wow! I haven't dated via OLD in a while, and didn't know it was so bad out there.
When I was using OLD years ago, I didn't have any really terrible experiences. All of the women I dated using OLD looked like the pictures they sent, didn't lie about their ages, etc.
The strangest experience I did have was once I dated a woman who brought her young niece with her on the date. She was baby-sitting that night (or said she was), and couldn't leave the niece at home. It made for an awkward date, but she paid for it (all we had was a small dessert, so I didn't feel that bad), we were both cordial to each other, and I never saw her again. Not that big of a deal.
Also, ladies, note that not all guys that use OLD misrepresent their appearance & age. I myself haven't used it in years, but am open to using it again. And, if I do, I will be completely honest about my age (mid-40's), my appearance (bald w/a shaved head & slender build), my job situation (gainfully employed), etc.
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Originally Posted by norman_w
I don't know if I've had a worst but I've had some good ones.
The worst thing is it pisses me off when a man pretends to be a woman online. Not a transg or a transv but being a jerkoff.
Don't believe anything anyone says unless you've known them for at least 4 weeks. "I never sleep with anybody." Uh huh and that's why 80% of the population now has hpv and 50% now has herpes.
Never had this happen (that I know of), but the idea of it possibly happening is very disturbing. I think that's why I'm hesitant to use OLD again. I don't mind a woman lying about her age or even her appearance - too much. However, someone lying about their gender is very deceitful & would really tick me off...
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