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I am a thinker and an emotional person, and I secretly enjoy talking about feelings, dreams, fears, disappointments with somebody I try to connect with. I've tried hard to control myself though, especially since my current SO is more logical/pragmatic in nature and seems intimidated/uncomfortable with this subject.
Do most men in general think that talking about vulnerabilities and emotions is a sign of weakness/being needy/being a drama queen?
I think most guys are raised to segregate and isolate their feelings which in turn makes it a bit difficult to listen to others...
I for one am not one of those guys. I guess that's why I have a lot of friends (women and men) who talk to me when then need someone to lean on. I'm very rational, logical, and pragmatic.... my friends seem to value my input and I have an impeccable history of keeping things private for all parties. However, the only friends I feel comfortable talking to are all women friends.
Why all these postings "most men", "most women"???
People are individuals. You have experience with three men/women who seem all alike? It is easy to do a gender lump on them.
You just have not found one who behaves like you expect him to. Perhaps look within to see if there is something you can change about yourself. Maybe you draw colder unemotional types for some reason.
I am a thinker and an emotional person, and I secretly enjoy talking about feelings, dreams, fears, disappointments with somebody I try to connect with. I've tried hard to control myself though, especially since my current SO is more logical/pragmatic in nature and seems intimidated/uncomfortable with this subject.
Do most men in general think that talking about vulnerabilities and emotions is a sign of weakness/being needy/being a drama queen?
Why all these postings "most men", "most women"???
People are individuals. You have experience with three men/women who seem all alike? It is easy to do a gender lump on them.
You just have not found one who behaves like you expect him to. Perhaps look within to see if there is something you can change about yourself. Maybe you draw colder unemotional types for some reason.
The OP said "most" - which is a far cry from "all" - which is an improvement from many posts on c-d. And for this topic, yeah, MOST men are clueless about emotion and are doing well to listen to someone talk for more than 5 minutes without zoning out. After they do their best to listen, then the OP needs to be clear what she wants him to do - just nod, help brainstorm "solutions", or reflect on his own feelings.
Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. In certain ways, they are two different animals, typically reacting to things differently. Women should keep this in mind whenever they're expecting their man to be like a girlfriend, and vice-versa.
I think most guys are raised to segregate and isolate their feelings which in turn makes it a bit difficult to listen to others...
I for one am not one of those guys. I guess that's why I have a lot of friends (women and men) who talk to me when then need someone to lean on. I'm very rational, logical, and pragmatic.... my friends seem to value my input and I have an impeccable history of keeping things private for all parties. However, the only friends I feel comfortable talking to are all women friends.
I'm a similar way, both men and women talk to me. However, there are very few that I am comfortable with. Male and female.
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I don't know about most, but not me, it would be nice if more women could actually be self aware and in tune with themselves enough to discuss them.
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