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hi, i know everyone (including my friends and fam) saying i should move on - but sometimes i ask myself should i contact her? ask her what shes doing? maybe we could try to fix things? I really want her back but i don't know what to do its been 5 weeks of strict NC.. and the more i wait the more she drifts away.. (at least i think that way)
I know im just 20 but isn't it worth trying?
hi, i know everyone (including my friends and fam) saying i should move on - but sometimes i ask myself should i contact her? ask her what shes doing? maybe we could try to fix things? I really want her back but i don't know what to do its been 5 weeks of strict NC.. and the more i wait the more she drifts away.. (at least i think that way)
I know im just 20 but isn't it worth trying?
Dude. Been there; done that and I got no t-shirt for my trouble.
Enjoy the memories of the time you had together, learn from it and move on. Trust me that there is NOTHING to be gained by trying to contact her again.
You were in a long-term relationship before you turned 21! Most people can't make that claim. That puts you a step ahead in the process down the road. Go out, have fun, don't be a debby-downer and you'll be fine. It's not going to be an overnight process, but you'll get there.
Find a hobby or go join a gym, but do something constructive to tame your impulses.
am i just beeing stupid or? i mean why not try to talk to her?
Because it just prolongs the whole process of moving on and getting over the heartbreak.
Focus on yourself and cycle through periods of mental distraction (exercise, hobbies etc) with periods of reflection to remember the good times. That leads to acceptance.. which is were you need to be.
You are young. Ending of relationships, even LTR, is part of the game. Consider this practice.....
Don'r contact her again, you'll only prolong the pain. Do everything in your power to maintain no contact with her, block her on your phone, facebook, skype and any other social media. If you maintain no contact and just focus on other things, I promise you in a couple months you will feel a lot better.
It doesn't matter why she ended it; she just did. Knowing why will not make you feel better, and may make you feel worse. Don't be that guy, the needy guy that can't let go. Yes, you are hurt, and you will be for a while, but she doesn't need to know that. Whatever it takes just move on, don't contact her, and don't talk about her to anyone who will tell her. As far as she is concerned, you are happier without her. Eventually, you will be happier without her if you keep telling yourself you are.
am i just beeing stupid or? i mean why not try to talk to her?
You arent stupid, just being a little pigheaded. She told you everything you need to hear. Believe what she is telling you, believe what she is doing (cutting off all contact). She doesnt want to talk to you!
When people show and tell you who they are BELIEVE THEM.
If she wants to get back with you, she knows how to contact you. If she doesnt, then she's moved on. Maybe she did meet someone else. Long distance relationships are tough in the best of circumstances. You are both way too young for that.
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