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If it's not your looks, income, or lifestyle holding you back....it's something else. It's probably your personality. Maybe counseling would help. Something is marking you with a flashing neon sign that tells women...." Don't date this one".
I suspect they are picking up on your underlying feelings of women in general. Looks and money only take you so far. Personality is huge for most women.
I'm better than women my age in just about everything across the board, not saying it to be an arrogant but I've never met a woman my age who can match me in everything like education, income, success, etc...
You've never met a woman your age with a bachelor's degree?
If it's not your looks, income, or lifestyle holding you back....it's something else. It's probably your personality. Maybe counseling would help. Something is marking you with a flashing neon sign that tells women...." Don't date this one".
I think that women look at the long term first. Men only look at the short term and ease into the long term. So, while a guy may be attractive, they have to be able to be a provider, a good husband, a good father..etc. For men, if she's half attractive and she's a breath'n....
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I think that women look at the long term first. Men only look at the short term and ease into the long term. So, while a guy may be attractive, they have to be able to be a provider, a good husband, a good father..etc. For men, if she's half attractive and she's a breath'n....
I hear this a lot, but I really don't think it is the case when I look around. Men and women aren't really that different. Dating to both is about having fun, and you need a first date before a second, and a LTR is just a STR that keeps on going. The one exception might be mid 30s women with a clock ticking that really want to have kids, and I've never seen that stop someone from dating someone for fun, they just keep on looking at the same time.
I hear this a lot, but I really don't think it is the case when I look around. Men and women aren't really that different. Dating to both is about having fun, and you need a first date before a second, and a LTR is just a STR that keeps on going. The one exception might be mid 30s women with a clock ticking that really want to have kids, and I've never seen that stop someone from dating someone for fun, they just keep on looking at the same time.
What I've noticed is that it used to be that bars were full of 20 somethings looking for fun, dates, and to get laid. Not so much anymore. Most of the bars and clubs have changed demographics to the late 20's and early 30's. I think this is mostly because younger folks don't have the money to date or they are in college focusing on their education or careers. Sure, I agree that folks younger than 25 are looking for a good time. But anything older than that it starts to become about settling down. I see that alot around here.
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What I've noticed is that it used to be that bars were full of 20 somethings looking for fun, dates, and to get laid. Not so much anymore. Most of the bars and clubs have changed demographics to the late 20's and early 30's. I think this is mostly because younger folks don't have the money to date or they are in college focusing on their education or careers. Sure, I agree that folks younger than 25 are looking for a good time. But anything older than that it starts to become about settling down. I see that alot around here.
Maybe this is regional, but 25 year olds definitely arent generally looking to settle down most places I've lived. That's 35-40 yos. After grad school and they're established in their careers.
OP if you don't mind me asking, where do you live? What kind of job do you have? Is it male domimated? This makes a huge difference. Women actually have it much harder in terms of dating everywhere in the US except maybe San Jose and North Dakota. Read Date-onomics by Jon Birger.
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