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Men want sex with a variety of women and aren't that choosey. Women want a high sexual market value man. This creates a situation where almost any woman who isn't butt ugly can command the attention of almost any desirable man, as least for an evening or two, if she sends out signals that she is sexually available.
It used to be that women were not allowed to make themselves available until after marriage and thus could not use casual sex to lure men who were out of their league. Rather than chase the sexiest man they could find, they had to focus their attentions on a realistic marriage partner. Those days are gone and society has reverted back to a more primitive, natural state.
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I've gotten to know everybody at my job pretty well and I observe everyone pretty closely. It's unbelievable how easy dating is for the women at my job, not one of them particularly decent looking
There is one girl, a blonde who is probably 40 lbs overweight with just horrible looking acne. She is a nice person so I can't say anything bad about her character but her intelligence is highly questionable, makes no money because she has no idea what she's doing. She has a tall good looking white boy friend - she was being pursued hard by another decent looking tall white guy with a pretty good job. Another one of my co workers is a very average looking single mom, chain smoker, very annoying voice, very average figure. She's playing 4-5 dudes at a time, getting dates constantly and being asked out constantly. I think she's sleeping with 3 different guys right now. It just blows my mind
The male equivalent of this just doesn't exist. There are no big guys with horrible acne dating good looking tall white women. Has it always been like this? It seems like dating is getting more and more lopsided - male 9s have to settle for female 6s, female 3's think they should be getting male 8s. Why is this?
I can kill myself to have a nice looking physique, a perfect complexion, a legit college degree, a 180K a year job, the latest in fashionable outfits, etc... etc... etc... and not have 1/10th the dating options as a girl who is like a 3/10 with zero accomplishments whatsoever.
Oh! I think my boobs just grew a little after reading that.
It is true. Like I said, asking a woman out (as opposed to merely flirting or making a pass) is very intimate and leaves a lot of guys vulnerable.
If a woman is so inclined; she can effectively nuke his self-esteem for the next several hours to even years if he is weak enough or she is nasty enough.
I know right? I'm tired of that bull. I haven't had a date since I was dumped a couple months ago. I guarantee I will never go on a date again. Then again, I'm 42 and chubby so I don't count. When men say that dating is easy for women, they think of pretty women.
Exactly. There are thousands of women whose existence they totally ignore, but that doesn't even register with them, because it's not their fragile little ego that's hurt. And I say this as a man.
I can imagine that for women in CD and in general it would be easier to get a date. I mean, almost all female posters have proclaimed before to have guys hit on them almost every day, some have been proposed multiple times, and you even have women over 35 who everybody tells them they look as if they were 20 years old. So considering how almost all female posters around here are like that then all they would have to do is pick from all the guys that hit on them and enjoy being wined and dined. That itself can make it easier, don't you think?
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I can imagine that for women in CD and in general it would be easier to get a date. I mean, almost all female posters have proclaimed before to have guys hit on them almost every day, some have been proposed multiple times, and you even have women over 35 who everybody tells them they look as if they were 20 years old. So considering how almost all female posters around here are like that then all they would have to do is pick from all the guys that hit on them and enjoy being wined and dined. That itself can make it easier, don't you think?
Only if those guys are ones you may be interested in, but often there is a large disconnect between the pools.
Most women I know don't have trouble getting dates, in general, and they're all late 30s or older. But usually the guys that hit on them aren't the ones they want, so they pursue the ones they do want. This is true if they're lean and lovely, or even obese... they all get play. The few that don't generally are homebodies or not socially outgoing. (Though that is true for men as well)
Only if those guys are ones you may be interested in, but often there is a large disconnect between the pools.
From 10 guys that approach women I can imagine that at least one would be "ok". Its not like they will marry the guy in the 2nd date. It's simply A DATE. They won't know if the guy has all the qualities they look for in a guy but at least they'll see a thing or two that will make the guy alright for a date and to find out more about them they will need to spend time with the guy, observe him, and with time find out about the other qualities the guy might have or not have.
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Most women I know don't have trouble getting dates, in general, and they're all late 30s or older
Yes, I don't really know women who have a hard time getting someone to take them out. I would imagine they would have to be really really scary ugly and with the wrong attitude. I can see even chubby girls have guys take them out. They can look decent and with a nice friendly fun attitude they are good to go.
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From 10 guys that approach women I can imagine that at least one would be "ok". Its not like they will marry the guy in the 2nd date. It's simply A DATE. They won't know if the guy has all the qualities they look for in a guy but at least they'll see a thing or two that will make the guy alright for a date and to find out more about them they will need to spend time with the guy, observe him, and with time find out about the other qualities the guy might have or not have.
I would have thought so too, but looking at some of the OLD in boxes of my friends, it is probably closer to 1 in 25 or 1 in 50.
I can imagine that for women in CD and in general it would be easier to get a date. I mean, almost all female posters have proclaimed before to have guys hit on them almost every day, some have been proposed multiple times, and you even have women over 35 who everybody tells them they look as if they were 20 years old. So considering how almost all female posters around here are like that then all they would have to do is pick from all the guys that hit on them and enjoy being wined and dined. That itself can make it easier, don't you think?
I'm constantly told that I don't look my age, I still get carded all the time, and I have been proposed to twice.
I haven't been hit on in months.
These things are all mutually exclusive and don't matter for anything.
Again, the only women this concept applies to are women who at the top of the attractiveness scale.
Men want sex with a variety of women and aren't that choosey. Women want a high sexual market value man. This creates a situation where almost any woman who isn't butt ugly can command the attention of almost any desirable man, as least for an evening or two, if she sends out signals that she is sexually available.
You're living in some kind of strange fantasy world. Or maybe it's the male blogosphere, idk, but this has no correlation to reality whatsoever.
I'm constantly told that I don't look my age, I still get carded all the time, and I have been proposed to twice.
I haven't been hit on in months.
These things are all mutually exclusive and don't matter for anything.
Again, the only women this concept applies to are women who at the top of the attractiveness scale.
Agreed. Men are looking at the more attractive and/or charismatic women and thinking that kind of attention is standard. It's not. Average women don't drawn in hundreds of hot white knights waiting to treat them like princesses. But they don't notice, because they just pay attention to the higher women, either in looks, or boldness that guys like, where they are extrovert and attracted alot of attention with their outgoing / flirty nature
The average ones are the ones they aren't noticing, the regular women who don't look hot, wear tons of make-up, and flirt/seduce like a porn star.
There are many average women who rarely get hit on. Or get hit on by really bad guys - then people wanna call them too picky just because they have some standards and don't want to date bad boys, or sloppy looking guys.
And with that, sometimes, if they want a better chance, usually they may have to approach or else they won't be noticed, even by some other average/decent guys. And with approaching, anyone is susceptible to rejection, and people who will be very rude / cruel about it.
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