Do you check out men with muscles and make a move on them?

[Sonic_Spork]

Speaking to the "approaching" side of this convo, if not the "musclebound" part...

I have always been a man-approacher. Not one to play hard to get. Pretty straightforward with my interest and intentions. And then I wonder why men enthusiastically use me and then ditch me within weeks. Apparently I'm supposed to play at being shy and coy and a blushing maid, if I actually want one to stick around in my life for more than a minute, make them work for it and wait for it.

Funny thing is, lots of guys who don't get a lot of opportunities will say that "good guys" don't do that, or only "jerks" do that or only men who basically have whatever it is that gets lots of women will use one and treat her badly...yet I have had men who were geeky, nerdy, not pulling in lots of female attention, not in shape, not rich, men who shouldn't be too terribly choosy, play me like that before. And ha, ha! I'm the sucker who fell for it. Don't I know all men only want one thing? Don't I realize that if I give it up, I deserve to be treated like trash?

This is the message that is pounded into women from CHILDHOOD on. Men, if you don't believe me, think about what you'd tell a daughter about men and boys. Think about what you've warned your girlfriends about, all other men except supposedly YOU. I wish I had a dollar for every guy who tried to pull the "I'm not like that, but men are like that, I'm just a good guy and the rest are jerks" nonsense.

We are punished for "approaching." How on earth can guys wonder why so many women don't approach. And believe it or not, sometimes we get rejected right off the bat, too.

[NWGirl74]

I can appreciate a man with muscles - I have a chiseled firefighter meme my co-worker gave me on my bulletin board - but I like a man who as a bit of softness to him. If wanted to hug a board, I'd just go to Home Depot.