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Hi everyone.
This is about my boyfriend. Hes jobless and in my opinion not doing enough to find a job. The problem is that he feels as though i am putting him down,which i dont feel is the case. He wants me to comfort him and tell him that everything will be ok but is that really the right thing to do when i clearly know that if he doesnt put in more effort things wont be ok?i feel like that would be lying to him just to make him feel better about being too lazy.
He barely looks for jobs so i am not exaggerating or trying to be a *****.what should i do
Well if he is able to pay the bills and has a plan then let it be but if he doesn't than I'd be on him too. I'd say you either get a job by X or we will have to be done since I cannot support the both of us. Although I think I'd get rid of him at this point since he doesn't seem to be too motivated.
Since he's jobless, who is supporting him and paying for his bills OP?
Tell him you'll support him but he needs to man up.
I was in a similar situation jobless some years ago OP. Actually being in a relationship gave me laser focus and motivation I got my act together quickly. You have to decide how long you can put up with him like this if he barely looks for jobs.
Hi everyone.
This is about my boyfriend. Hes jobless and in my opinion not doing enough to find a job. The problem is that he feels as though i am putting him down,which i dont feel is the case. He wants me to comfort him and tell him that everything will be ok but is that really the right thing to do when i clearly know that if he doesnt put in more effort things wont be ok?i feel like that would be lying to him just to make him feel better about being too lazy.
He barely looks for jobs so i am not exaggerating or trying to be a *****.what should i do
This is not about your boyfriend. You can't make him do what he doesnt want to do.
This is entirely about YOU. You should do what you want to do. Either stay with him and continue to support him, or leave. Pretty simple.
Since he's jobless, who is supporting him and paying for his bills OP?
Tell him you'll support him but he needs to man up.
I was in a similar situation jobless some years ago OP. Actually being in a relationship gave me laser focus and motivation I got my act together quickly. You have to decide how long you can put up with him like this if he barely looks for jobs.
Exactly. Does he have a trust fund, or is he independently wealthy from developing some breakthrough idea, and he doesn't have to work? Doesn't sound like it...
If it's important to you that he contributes to the household, then he probably should be putting some significant effort into the job search. Times are tough, and it's not easy for many people to get a job. But a job isn't going to come knocking on the door. He's got to go out there, and get one. If you're paying the bills, you need to decide how long his free ride is going to last. Tell him to treat the job search like a job. Set the alarm every morning, put on his job hunting clothes, out the door by 8 AM, filling out applications or dropping off resumes or whatever the case may be, home for lunch and then back at it again. If he has the kind of job that requires a lot of online searching, he should still get up, get dressed, and do it from a library or somewhere similar. Fewer distractions.
Hi everyone.
This is about my boyfriend. Hes jobless and in my opinion not doing enough to find a job. The problem is that he feels as though i am putting him down,which i dont feel is the case. He wants me to comfort him and tell him that everything will be ok but is that really the right thing to do when i clearly know that if he doesnt put in more effort things wont be ok?i feel like that would be lying to him just to make him feel better about being too lazy.
He barely looks for jobs so i am not exaggerating or trying to be a *****.what should i do
Find a new boyfriend or keep this one.
The solution is not that complicated, make a decision and follow through with your decision.
Thank you all... I guess im gonna have to move on. I never had a problem supporting him but now that he got mad and took his anger out on me last night im gonna have to let it go. For my own Safety
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