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It leads to many more women finding him attractive, just because of it, and he gets to choose the best mate, if he is ever wanting to settle down. Seems like a pretty good deal to me.
Doesn't that mean you're always on the lookout for the one that might be even better then the one you are with? There'll always be better options around the corner so why settle?
I guess we all have different approaches to life. I certainly don't think in terms of winning & losing when it comes to my relationship coz that sounds like a lot of gameplay.
Nice story and all due respect but, you both made choices I would never have made. It just does not make sense to me to pursue someone who is decided on having children when I'm decided on not having children.
I agree with you. When you are in a relationship, you should both be on the same page with regards to your relationship goals, how an unexpected pregnancy will be handled, as well as how you feel about starting a family in the future (or not).
It's problematic though because human beings are fickle and they change their minds a lot.
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Just curious, how did you arrive at this conclusion? Was it all based on FB photos? Did you even meet up with her?
Nope, didn't meet up with her. Was able to find more photos by finding her FB profile and only confirmed that the two photos I saw of her at first were the rule and not the exception.
OP-if you don't have kids and don't want kids, try to keep that idea to yourself as long as possible. If asked first about your stance on kids, just say that they are not a priority in the immediate future. That should keep a woman sated long enough to at least have sex with you. I wouldn't go around advertising my no children ever stance before I got laid with the particular women.
Most often, if you keep quiet on this topic, the woman will too. She'll assume you want kids, you'll assume she wants kids, you'll have protected sex, and then maybe this topic will come up further down the road. But don't force something unpleasant too early on.
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OP-if you don't have kids and don't want kids, try to keep that idea to yourself as long as possible. If asked first about your stance on kids, just say that they are not a priority in the immediate future. That should keep a woman sated long enough to at least have sex with you. I wouldn't go around advertising my no children ever stance before I got laid with the particular women.
Most often, if you keep quiet on this topic, the woman will too. She'll assume you want kids, you'll assume she wants kids, you'll have protected sex, and then maybe this topic will come up further down the road. But don't force something unpleasant too early on.
Not to say this ain't tempting but I just couldn't do it. If I'm going to hit it, I would ideally want a girl to be on the same page about what happen if birth control were to fail. If a girl wants kids, she is more likely to keep an Oops baby. Plus being dishonest about a big issue like that is just shady to me.
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