Why don't more women have compassion on shy men (younger, personality, friends)
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Many women (myself included) would not be compatible with a man who is by nature shy and insecure about himself. By compassion, do you mean we should date you types anyway, so we won't hurt your feelings?
By compassion, do you mean we should date you types anyway, so we won't hurt your feelings?
I'm assuming yes. We're now seeing the product of decades of parental coddling, participation trophies, and telling every boy he's a special snowflake. Now you have an entire generation of "men" who can't handle rejection from women or failure in the real world. These "men" would be better off dead since women, businesses, and society in general have no use for them. Harsh but true. Survival of the fittest has always been the name of the game and today is no different.
I'm assuming yes. We're now seeing the product of decades of parental coddling, participation trophies, and telling every boy he's a special snowflake. Now you have an entire generation of "men" who can't handle rejection from women or failure in the real world. These "men" would be better off dead since women, businesses, and society in general have no use for them. Harsh but true.
Obligatory "it's not just men that do this" post. Normally, I don't feel the need to do that, but your post had a tone that suggested that it's only men who behave this way. My apologies if that wasn't the intent.
Obligatory "it's not just men that do this" post. Normally, I don't feel the need to do that, but your post had a tone that suggested that it's only men who behave this way. My apologies if that wasn't the intent.
That may be true, but for the most part, it's not women who are crying about not being given a chance by the opposite sex. The participation trophy culture has turned a lot of men into whiny sissies who wouldn't be able to attract women even if they had any redeeming qualities (which a lot of them don't).
I've never dated anyone because I felt sorry for them. Wouldn't that be cruel? I wouldn't want anyone to date me out of pity. I want to date people that I am really into - and I want the people I'm dating to be really into me. Romance isn't about compassion. I can be compassionate as a friend. But I'm not going to date someone out of compassion. Who would that be helping? How long should it last? 1 date? 5 dates? Should I wait until he says, "I love you" and then say, "Oh… Gee… Well, I was only dating you to show you some compassion. I'm not really attracted to you…"
That may be true, but it's not women who are crying about not being given a chance by the opposite sex. The participation trophy culture has turned a lot of men into whiny sissies who wouldn't be able to attract women even if they had any redeeming qualities (which a lot of them don't).
Oh, it's definitely both. The counter product is princess syndrome, where women feel entitled to a variety of things simply by nature of existing. It's a problem with both genders, each with their own special flair about it.
Where you see men complaining they're not given a chance, you see women complaining that there are "no good men" out there. In the former, the men need to take the initiative to make themselves more chance-worth. In the latter, women need to readdress their definition of what a "good man" is.
I've never dated anyone because I felt sorry for them. Wouldn't that be cruel? I wouldn't want anyone to date me out of pity. I want to date people that I am really into - and I want the people I'm dating to be really into me. Romance isn't about compassion. I can be compassionate as a friend. But I'm not going to date someone out of compassion. Who would that be helping? How long should it last? 1 date? 5 dates? Should I wait until he says, "I love you" and then say, "Oh… Gee… Well, I was only dating you to show you some compassion. I'm not really attracted to you…"
A lot of people subconsciously believe that "if they were just given a chance, then surely all those other factors would go away and they'd love me for who I am". Obviously, that's mostly not a thing. But men and women wish for it in ridiculous numbers.
Op, it has nothing to do with lack of compassion. A shy man, any man, must find the confidence to approach and pursue the women that they desire. If he does not, she will never even know who he is to decide whether she would like him or not. She simply will never know someone who doesn't approach her, until he actually does. Just like wanting a job; is a person who never goes on any job interviews being shown a lack of compassion by the employers who haven't hired them? No! Just approach her, give yourself a chance to be known and don't hang all of your expectations on just one. Go for what you want, it's either that or turn into a lonely bitter old man. The sad part is, it's all in your control.
Go for what you want, it's either that or turn into a lonely bitter old man. The sad part is, it's all in your control.
The bolded part cannot be emphasized enough. Men can easily control if women are attracted to them, and as such, have no excuses if they remain single for the rest of their lives. They just need to have confidence and everything will fall into place.
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