I'm childfree & am dating a woman w/children (love, husband, younger)
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I for one would have no problem dating a single/divorced mom. The key is, just be yourself! When you meet her children, show some interest in their activities, treat them respectfully, and speak evenly with them! - by that I mean always, always speak TO them, never AT them! Kids are smart and they know if you're b.s.-ing them! Remember also that you are the "New kid on the block"; you are not in the dad role, you are mom's boyfriend. They already have a father! In the end, they should be respectful of you, provided that you treat them, and their mom, well! You may not always agree with them, nor they you, but you can agree to disagree.
I also want to add that there will be disappointments in terms of the two of you having time together. Kids home from school (sick); parent-teacher conferences, recreational and other activities centered on the kids, homework, the list goes on. You'll just have to ride them out. Intimacy will not be a priority at times. The kids come first! Now and always.
I'm a man with no kids. I prefer to date women with no kids. It is just a better fit. This does not make me an ignorant caveman.
True, because you made your stance clear (reasonable) without insulting and putting down anyone else.
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Translation- If you don't agree w/ me, you're ignorant & vulgar.
Translation-she's right...what's more, there seems to be a proliferation on here lately, of folks who like to woof and act like Internet Tarzans from the imagined safety of the Internet
Knowing full well, of course, that if they ever grew a set and a spinal column and tried to step to someone in real life and run their mouth, it wouldn't end well at all
Back on topic---I myself am the product of the union of TWO single parents...my mother and father both had kids when they met each other back in the day...not ONCE did my old man flinch about taking on responsibility of/for my sister, nor my mother for my two older brothers...not freakin' once...
I would have paid money to have been back in the day and seen some of these 'brave ' souls trying to tell Catfish Sr he needed to 'run and not raise someone else's spawn'...my father, like me, was not about nonsense of any kind, and would have dealt with them (as Joe Clark famously said) 'expeditiously'
The takeaway here, you ask? Unless you have walked a mile in the OP's shoes, or any of the other men and women here who are, or have been thinking about, dating someone with kids, then you need to go somewhere and shut the rhymes-with-truck up, and keep your whiny, nasty, 6th grade comments to yourself...because you know that's ALL you're gonna do, is waste bandwith on a chat forum
I for one would have no problem dating a single/divorced mom. The key is, just be yourself! When you meet her children, show some interest in their activities, treat them respectfully, and speak evenly with them! - by that I mean always, always speak TO them, never AT them! Kids are smart and they know if you're b.s.-ing them! Remember also that you are the "New kid on the block"; you are not in the dad role, you are mom's boyfriend. They already have a father! In the end, they should be respectful of you, provided that you treat them, and their mom, well! You may not always agree with them, nor they you, but you can agree to disagree.
So I take it you have NOT dated a single mother before.
Find another child free individual, unless you feel like being 2nd (or in this case 3rd) in the relationship!
That's life. You are not always going to be #1 all the time to anyone.
I'm perfectly fine being 2nd or 3rd priority, I'm an adult and I can fend and entertain myself.
Though I have to give DH kudos, somehow he makes everyone feel like #1.
Now I have to think about that....
DH wants kids and I happy,
I want DH and kids happy,
Kids want DH and I happy......
That's why it works.
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Fixed That Right Up For You
' souls trying to tell Catfish Sr he needed to 'run and not raise someone else's spawn'...my father, like me, was not about nonsense of any kind, and would have dealt with them (as Joe Clark famously said) 'expeditiously'
