I found another woman's used panties in my boyfriend's laundry drawer! Help! (date, women)
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i just found another woman's panties in my boyfriend's laundry drawer. I date him for 4 months. Sometimes i stay with him but I travel a lot. So I'm not always staying at his place because of work.
I caught him cheating once (kissing his staff at starbucks), when we had big problem in the first 2 months. I broke up with him but he were insisting to get back together. He said he didn't really cheat because our problem was too crazy and for him we were breaking up already when I moved out from his place. He said I hurted him too much so he needs to go with another girl who seems nice. He also said he didn't have any intension to date that girl. We end up getting back together, willing to try again, and move on.
He's in another country now working for a couple days. We're okay and we have no problem at the moment. I come to his place to put a surprise present for him and his nephew. And suddenly i feel like i wanna check his laundry drawer. Then I found the panties.
Is it an enough prove to say that he's cheating?
Should I break up with him straight away?
I don't know if he's cheating again. I'm afraid he'll be mad because i check his stuff, and then he can say the panties is from his past. I'm afraid he'll turn everything then say everything is my mistake again. I'm afraid he'll turn back the fire to me and say I'm acting crazy because of my insecurity and keep suspecting his life.
I honestly still love him, and hope he'll change. But I don't wanna be a fool to be in a relationship with a repeated liar and cheater.
Have you posted here before? Someone posted this exact same situation about a year ago. Some other woman's panties "from the past"(what, he collects trophies? You should frame them for him, for Xmas) hidden in the sock drawer, or whatever.
You kids should keep notes on which forums you post your fiction on, so you don't mess up and post duplicates on the same forum.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 12-20-2015 at 11:08 AM..
i just found another woman's panties in my boyfriend's laundry drawer. I date him for 4 months. Sometimes i stay with him but I travel a lot. So I'm not always staying at his place because of work.
I caught him cheating once (kissing his staff at starbucks), when we had big problem in the first 2 months. I broke up with him but he were insisting to get back together. He said he didn't really cheat because our problem was too crazy and for him we were breaking up already when I moved out from his place. He said I hurted him too much so he needs to go with another girl who seems nice. He also said he didn't have any intension to date that girl. We end up getting back together, willing to try again, and move on.
He's in another country now working for a couple days. We're okay and we have no problem at the moment. I come to his place to put a surprise present for him and his nephew. And suddenly i feel like i wanna check his laundry drawer. Then I found the panties.
Is it an enough prove to say that he's cheating?
Should I break up with him straight away?
I don't know if he's cheating again. I'm afraid he'll be mad because i check his stuff, and then he can say the panties is from his past. I'm afraid he'll turn everything then say everything is my mistake again. I'm afraid he'll turn back the fire to me and say I'm acting crazy because of my insecurity and keep suspecting his life.
I honestly still love him, and hope he'll change. But I don't wanna be a fool to be in a relationship with a repeated liar and cheater.
He could like wearing them himself but he probably would have brought it up by now. Its probably a trophy. It might be from his past. I'd watch wait and see, keep your ears and eyes open. You'll have to tell him to use a condom and he won't like that. Keep in mind that if he is screwing around that he'll give you an std. 90% of the population now has hpv and 50% has herpes.
The panties were in the drawer for a reason. HE would have been the one to throw them in there. If he found them on the floor then he obviously didn't have the brains to dispose of them. Or, as one poster suggested, maybe they're his.
The only thing that matters is that they aren't YOUR panties, and if they are his then that's another twist for you to consider. And it shouldn't take much thinking to say two simple words: "I'm done."
IF my GF found a pair, this would be my story. I would hope she didn't want to see me try them on.
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