What's going on compadre
I am the lackadaisical, semi-freeloading boyfriend in the topic title
I'm not really freeloading because I pay my rent ($100 rent if you can believe it) and whatever else I owe my GF
My GF whose father owns the separate house we are living in, and share with my GF's sister and her BF
That's right we are cohabitants
Every so often I feel I should scrounge some money together and flee this living arrangement
It's comfortable and easy-living however I feel my privacy is extremely-encroached upon
I suppose that's fair for living in a place that's $100 in rent
However I am unable to pursue my hobbies to the fullest I would like
And we all get along here by giving each other as much space and freedom to use the kitchen and bathroom we share, in equal turns
But every so often my neurotic GF will overreact about the cramped living arrangement,
or when she and I go out for a drive she'll overreact about a tailgater (I'm a slow/careful driver who enjoys the scenery too much)
It's difficult taking her places because she has social anxiety disorder and may lash out at people like an angry dog
Sometimes its funny but sometimes it's quite serious
When she calms down its nice
When she isn't calm, I feel pinned underfoot and try to wait-it-out silently until she's calm
Housework makes her anxious and irritable, and so does a dirty house -- an endless cycle until close to bed time
Now she bugs me / pressures me into marriage and having children
So do her parents
This doesn't feel right to me
I feel she would be an abusive mother or neurotic
I know she would not build a child up spiritually/emotionally but rather subjugate them as a power thing -- I foresee it
Her mother is that way and she retains 99.9996% of her mother's traits
I wouldn't mind a year break from her/this
I wouldn't mind a long-distance relationship
I wouldn't mind living in a place with a garage with my belongings someplace away from her
What keeps me here is a messed up car (she lets me use her car instead) and MONEY
I work part time and life is so easy that I do not pursue further work
Please tell me what you think, good or bad
If my story needs fleshing out or if something doesn't make sense I'll add more info
Thanks for listening
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