Why do below average guys get angry when "hot" women don't want them? (girlfriends, marry)
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Why bother to put "hot" in quotes if you're just gonna not-so-humblebrag the rest of the post??
1) Attractiveness is subjective, and 2) everyone has baggage.
You don't know what a guy has been through before he gets up the nerve to talk to a stranger. And you never know how many times a woman who's just trying to hang out with friends has been hit on.
The takeaway, OP, which you should already know by now since you're SO attractive, is that men come after pretty women, and not all of the men have manners.
Not all women do either.
Because it seems that it is always worse when its the extremes. I'm not a guy so I don't know what it is like for guys to go after woman after woman and get rejected...but I'm sure its frustrating.
The thread was "inspired" by a guy who is an acquaintance who goes after ALL of the really attractive women in our circle only to get frustrated and turn a bit nasty when he is rebuffed. I often wonder why he doesn't go after some of the other women who are also really, really great girls (but are not as "hot")
I think that a lot of the frustration of many men (including a few here on this forum) is that they are unrealistic about the quality (looks, background, etc.) of women that they will be able to attract. I have never understand the need for these guys to become angry when pretty women politely reject an advance from a guy who is not what we want or is not to our specific standards.
The simple act of politely rejecting a guy who is not suitable can escalate into a tirade of insults, verbal assaults, threats and intimidation. I always wonder what do these guys hope to accomplish by doing this? You can't abuse us into wanting you. And you are not entitled to the company, attention and sexual intimacy of a "pretty" girl just because you desire her. So I have always wondered why these guys don't just pursue women who are more compatible overall with them?
Are you really interested in why this happens, or did you just want to complain about it? Because the why seems pretty obvious: everybody is disappointed when they don't get what they want, whether what they want is reasonable or not.
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Originally Posted by reneeh63
Because most guys feel entitled and don't realize what "league" they're in.
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Originally Posted by CinnaBunney
This.
"most". You two are cute.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
It's not even about below-average guys, OP. It's about any guys. Which ones get angry at rejection and lash out is not limited to those anyone deems "below average".
For that matter, it's not even about guys. It's about people.
Because it seems that it is always worse when its the extremes. I'm not a guy so I don't know what it is like for guys to go after woman after woman and get rejected...but I'm sure its frustrating.
The thread was "inspired" by a guy who is an acquaintance who goes after ALL of the really attractive women in our circle only to get frustrated and turn a bit nasty when he is rebuffed. I often wonder why he doesn't go after some of the other women who are also really, really great girls (but are not as "hot")
Because not everyone "ranks" themselves at the same place on the measuring stick that you have. Do you get it?
What if the so-called "other, not as hot" women don't realize they're just "really, really great girls"??? What if the acquaintance thinks YOU are "just" a "really, really great girl"??
You DO think you're better than him. He's not that far off. Insults are uncalled for, but so is arrogance.
I think many men and women go for people who are far more physically attractive than they are and then wonder why they can't find anyone. I realise that physical appearance isn't the be all and end all, but for both men and women physical attractiveness is important. I think most people manage to adjust their expectations at some point. But, there will always be a small group of people who haven't yet adjusted their expectations (and a few never will), and so react badly when they are rejected.
No one likes being rejected. Admittedly this I a juvenile reaction which, hopefully most people manage to quit, once they are more enlightened. Women don't always have the best reactions either, when they are rejected.
I don't believe in leagues. Average men you can get hotties! My fat butt had 3 gorgeous men in the past. You can do it men!
You must have some pretty amazing "skills"? Money?.....? Whenever people of different levels of attractiveness get together there is some other compensating factor.
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