What if you
don't know what you want yet in the relationship? What if that's WHY you're on the date - to see whether you want to go further, whether you want to sleep with the person, whether you want to get to know him/her better first before making that decision, whether you want to be friends, whether you don't want to know the person after all...?
I thought that was the whole point of dating (besides enjoyment/having fun).
It's not always "not telling the truth" if you have to actually go on the date first in order to determine what you want next.
If we knew our "intentions" before even knowing the person better than a few texts and maybe a phone call or two, I suppose we could all do a Cone Heads version of dating, sure. "Hello. I would very much like to go out to dinner with you on Saturday with the goal toward beginning a relationship with you, which we will strengthen with mutual stories and continual opening up over the course of approximately six months before reassessing where we are and having our initial talk about potentially moving in together, the next goal being matrimony. If we are on the same page, we will agree that sex should begin on Date Number Four. No oral until Date Six or my birthday, whichever comes first. Please check one of the following: 1. Yes. 2. No. 3. Maybe."
Geez Louise, the pain some people turn dating into. It's really supposed to be fun. Or I thought it was, anyway...
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