Does she like me or is she just being a flirt? (wife, boyfriend)

[Kieran121]

There is this woman who I have known for 10 years since I was in high school.

We used to get drunk together quite a lot and hang out in the same friendship groups and we also had a few drunken fumbles when we were around 17 (nothing more than oral sex). We are both 25 now.

She eventually got a boyfriend and she's now settled down (she has 3 kids and lives with her boyfriend). We have had the odd interaction through facebook and sometimes text but nothing more than a quick catch up.

I saw her a couple of days ago in a store and she then texted me yesterday asking me if I wanted to go round for a catch up, I said yes.

To cut a long story short when I was round there she was telling me how she recently has been sterilised and she said ''when me and P split up, we wont be able to have any kids'' - meaning with me, which I found rather a strange thing to say.

I don't know how but we got onto the subject of porn, she was asking me what I liked to watch and how often I masturbate and she wanted to know all the gritty details, even down to the detail of how much I ejaculate........ It felt a bit awkward to me and I felt I shouldn't be talking to her about it as she has a boyfriend (I still told her).......

She then told me her boyfriend didn't like me (due to our past) he was at work and she said if he phones I shouldn't be offended if she doesn't mention I'm there and could I be quiet if he does.

She then said to me I was pretty attractive and how I could get a girlfriend easily and she doesn't know why I'm still single....

Then when it was time to go she gave me a hug and told me to text her sometime and that we should do it again.

Obviously this all happened over the course of about 5 hours and I didn't go round there with any intention other than catching up with her.

I'm not one to break up a relationship or a family, should I be careful? not go round there again if she asks me? or is she just a lonely housewife now and it's banter?

What would you do in this situation?

[Auraliea]

Walk away.

Now.

[JustJulia]

Oops, we're talking about porn and extremely explicit stuff and whoopsie how did that happen?! And hush while my boyfriend calls so I can pretend I'm not here? Good lord, man. Think with your big head.

[Kieran121]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

Oops, we're talking about porn and extremely explicit stuff and whoopsie how did that happen?! And hush while my boyfriend calls so I can pretend I'm not here? Good lord, man. Think with your big head.

She initiated the conversation about the subject. I would've felt a bit of a prude refusing to answer her or talk about it tbh.

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by Kieran121

She initiated the conversation about the subject. I would've felt a bit of a prude refusing to answer her or talk about it tbh.

One man's "prudish" is another man's "wise."

No more "catch-ups," with her, OK? She's a hot mess looking for her next chump.

Don't volunteer.

[1xolisiwe]

Originally Posted by Auraliea

Walk away.

Now.

Don't even walk! Run!

[snugglegirl05]

Originally Posted by Kieran121

She initiated the conversation about the subject. I would've felt a bit of a prude refusing to answer her or talk about it tbh.

Why does she even need to know if you watch porn?

That was an inappropriate question for anyone in a relationship to ask a single person.

[zentropa]

Originally Posted by Kieran121

She initiated the conversation about the subject. I would've felt a bit of a prude refusing to answer her or talk about it tbh.

WTF??? Have you heard about something called BOUNDARIES? You are heading for a trainwreck because you don't know how to protect your interests or assert yourself like an adult man.

Weak and dumb. Don't be that way.

[snugglegirl05]

Originally Posted by zentropa

WTF??? Have you heard about something called BOUNDARIES? You are heading for a train-wreck because you don't know how to protect your interests or assert yourself like an adult man.

Weak and dumb. Don't be that way.

^^^^^ I agree

Boundaries are important in any relationship, and no, just because you assert yourself like an adult man or adult woman does not mean that you are the "bad person". A lack of boundaries says a lot about a person.

[Inkpoe]

Lol, I bet she's not even actually sterilized. She's setting up a trap for you to fall in. With your lack of boundaries, its going to be a rabbit hole.

Don't ever cross paths with that "lady" again.