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It's not money, or even the lack of money. It's how couples handle the money or lack of money that makes it an issue in marriages. Some people become very different when they have a lot of money, or at least enough not to worry about bills. Others cannot work together through the stress of living paycheck to paycheck.
When couples are not on the same page about finances it becomes an issue.
Even more than the amount of money is deciding how to spend the money available.
Some people are spenders and some are savers - I think opposites sometimes attract but that may not work over the long run. It's no fun being the bad guy when the other keeps wanting to spend on big items when you want to save for retirement or travel, e.g.
If you're trying to raise a family on limited income, money is an enormous constant stress point. I've observed lots of marriages like that where they're both making lots of poor financial and spending decisions that compound the problem. I see irresponsible men walking out after years of money arguments since it's easier to just make the child support payment than listen to it every day and have to stop spending money in the bar or on toys. If you look at impoverished single mothers, money and the argument over how it's being spent is typically a root cause of the relationship imploding.
I figure most people posting in a relationship forum have lives nothing like that so it is difficult to relate to it. Most middle class and upper middle class people aren't juggling school clothes for the kids, food on the table, getting the rent paid, the shut-off notice for electricity, the car insurance cancellation notice, and the buy-here-pay-here car dealer threatening to tow the car for late payments. If that's your life and your spouse blows $500 on some toy or announces they've quit their job or gotten fired, it creates a huge uproar.
Do you understand NOW op? Did that clear things up for you?
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