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A year? Maybe I'm speaking out of turn, but the idea of putting life off for a year after a parent dies would not be feasible for most. After my father died, I began a new job, moved to my first apartment in a major city, and completed a semester of college in less than 6 months after his death. The world keeps spinning, bills have to get paid, and we have to exist as humans.
It sounds like OP's dude is not into her enough to date. I think the death excuse is to soften the blow.
Yeah, I totally get that. This is one of those situations where I'm so glad I just directly asked him - imagine 6 months down the road after having sex etc and he says the same thing? I would have been hurt.
It sounds like OP's dude is not into her enough to date. I think the death excuse is to soften the blow.
The "death excuse" sounded way too polished to me. I just had this mental image of a guy who reads women well enough to portray himself as the man they've always wanted, then brings forward this disclaimer. If she goes ahead with dating him, he's got his out ("Told you I couldn't commit.")
Naw, I disagree about the death of mother issue. Lost my mom 7 months after my dad and I was just a mess. Made mistakes at work, cried all the time, was just really a zombie. And they do remind grieving people not
to make big decisions for a while. Death of parents is a lot, plus it brings up all sorts of other baggage. Give him
some time and yes, it's a legitimate reason.
Naw, I disagree about the death of mother issue. Lost my mom 7 months after my dad and I was just a mess. Made mistakes at work, cried all the time, was just really a zombie. And they do remind grieving people not
to make big decisions for a while. Death of parents is a lot, plus it brings up all sorts of other baggage. Give him
some time and yes, it's a legitimate reason.
I'm so sorry about both your parents.
My issue here is that he made out he was looking for something long term repeatedly only to come out this weekend and say that he wasn't. I feel like I've been led on and lied to just because he didn't want me to rule him out as a possibility. To me, that's selfish.
There are no hard and fast rules in life, but one I'd follow is not to get involved with anyone who has just experienced a big life change (good or bad).
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