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Which coincides wonderfully with the people that talk about relationships that never had any, and the people talking about not wanting to date on a relationships site.
It's brilliant(ly mind numbing).
And despite the fact that they are the lowest common denominator, shout loudly IT'S NOT ME. It's my
income
race
gender
hairline
height
boobs
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Women expect men to wait for the same reason that men expect women to wait.
Yes, members of both sexes generally require a waiting period. After all, if some random strange woman walks up to you on the street, you're not going to have sex with her there even if she initiates it. If you're open to the possibility of sex with her, you're probably going to have some questions first, or at least want to get a room rather than fornicating right there in the street.
So really, what you're asking is
Q:why do women expect me to wait longer than I want to wait?
And the answer is
A: because it's not all about you.
Why would you want to have sex with a woman before she is ready? If you do, you're not offering what most women want in a sexual partner. Aside from that, there's the fact that females of mammalian species (such as humans) tend to be more sexually selective due to inherent issues relating to reproductive capabilities. Simply put, a man can have thousands of offspring. Even if he isn't at all selective in choosing his sexual partners, he's going to happen upon a number of solid genetic match-ups resulting in progeny that will be raised by others simply due to numbers. A woman can, at best, produce a dozen or so offspring. Each one requires an absolute minimum of nine months of her time, as opposed to two minutes for a man. A woman has to make each one count. Now, men and women don't consciously think of these things when they're choosing sexual partners. But evolution has generally imbued each gender with tendencies reflecting those realities. In women, this manifests itself in a certain circumspection in choosing sexual partners.
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Women expect men to wait for the same reason that men expect women to wait.
Yes, members of both sexes generally require a waiting period. After all, if some random strange woman walks up to you on the street, you're not going to have sex with her there even if she initiates it. If you're open to the possibility of sex with her, you're probably going to have some questions first, or at least want to get a room rather than fornicating right there in the street.
OmegaSparks writes about sexuality like someone who has never actually had real human sex!
The point im making is that I do not appreciate woman or someone who has the need to withdraw sex for a long time just because of whatever reason be it religious or tramatic reasons whatever
Yea my dating pool may take a hit it doesn't mean i don't get laid or cant find a woman
Making asumptions isn't always a reliable way either like what you are doing.but then again
I wont go into details here about my private sex life to keep it PG 13 but sexual compatibility has always been somethin i look at first because I don't like a dead sex life.
Im pretty sure everyone on this forum has different ways of how they feel about sex just like how I have different views of it
After 3 dates i do expect to have sex somewhere there it you may not like my view just as i may not likes someone view of withholding it a long time
Anyways, thats all I have to say, why should I clearly be with someone who has clearly different views of sex than I do ?
As for doin it right and givin good sex that will not be discussed here in this thread
The point im making is that I do not appreciate woman or someone who has the need to withdraw sex for a long time just because of whatever reason be it religious or tramatic reasons whatever
Withdraw... for reasons like maybe conviction or trauma. Withdraw?
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Yea my dating pool may take a hit it doesn't mean i don't get laid or cant find a woman
I don't even care if I get banned. You just made the ranks of the total asshats.
The point im making is that I do not appreciate woman or someone who has the need to withdraw sex for a long time just because of whatever reason be it religious or tramatic reasons whatever
Yea my dating pool may take a hit it doesn't mean i don't get laid or cant find a woman
Making asumptions isn't always a reliable way either like what you are doing.but then again
I wont go into details here about my private sex life to keep it PG 13 but sexual compatibility has always been somethin i look at first because I don't like a dead sex life.
Im pretty sure everyone on this forum has different ways of how they feel about sex just like how I have different views of it
After 3 dates i do expect to have sex somewhere there it you may not like my view just as i may not likes someone view of withholding it a long time
Anyways, thats all I have to say, why should I clearly be with someone who has clearly different views of sex than I do ?
As for doin it right and givin good sex that will not be discussed here in this thread
No one GIVES sex. They HAVE sex. And more than 3 dates isn't making someone wait. This isn't all about what you want and when you want it.
Exactly. Honestly, some of the male posters on here live in some alternate reality.
Luckily most of the men out there in real life do not reflect the warped perspectives of those "alien" posters.
It's what separates the men from the boys. There are plenty of the later on this board.
The point im making is that I do not appreciate woman or someone who has the need to withdraw sex for a long time just because of whatever reason be it religious or tramatic reasons whatever
Yea my dating pool may take a hit it doesn't mean i don't get laid or cant find a woman
Making asumptions isn't always a reliable way either like what you are doing.but then again
I wont go into details here about my private sex life to keep it PG 13 but sexual compatibility has always been somethin i look at first because I don't like a dead sex life.
Im pretty sure everyone on this forum has different ways of how they feel about sex just like how I have different views of it
After 3 dates i do expect to have sex somewhere there it you may not like my view just as i may not likes someone view of withholding it a long time Anyways, thats all I have to say, why should I clearly be with someone who has clearly different views of sex than I do ?
As for doin it right and givin good sex that will not be discussed here in this thread
You shouldn't. And since you like to talk about how you have sex all the time with lots of different women - I wonder why you would even ask that question?
haha lol
I think the real big issue with me when its a waiting thing is really seeing if we are sexually compatible or not.
I can't tell how much someone likes sex until I do it with them
I like it so much and pretty much a lot but someone who uses it as some reward or either withholds it until marriage is just a recipe for disaster. Using it as a weapon is hurtful bad enough in a relationship.
I should not ever date anyone who saves them selves for marriage or has high morality against it.
You realize those are fairly rare, don't you? Especially the latter. It sounds like you've been spending too much time online reading forums and blogs, not enough time enjoying life.
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