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Guys seem genetically programmed to exploit weaknesses in others. We do that all the time. You probably get stared at because you look interesting .. and you shouldn't worry about what other people think, only about what you think - especially when it concerns matters of appearances.
You need to decide the move that is right for you but if it were me I would tell him you are crushing on him. In any case, he would likely be very flattered; you may feel foolish at the moment but will ultimately feel better afterwords.
NOOOOO..i can NEVER tell him! Our friendship means a lot to me and I won't let anything ruin that. I thought about telling him I like him jokingly just to get it out of my system but I don't want to lead him on or anything. And his wife would be very upset if some 20sth girl told her husband she likes him.
Really? I'm scared now to know what it says my location is, haha!
Yep, aging isn't all about ethnicity. It's luck of parental genetics, staying out of the sun, not smoking, etc.
And, one theory, you say you're insecure about yourself. Maybe you like older guys, because many of them are secure (in job, finances, etc.), so that makes you feel taken care of, and boosts your self esteem. One possibility. I generally do think, though, that guys who go for women much younger than themselves, are gross and have insecurities themselves.
I generally do think, though, that guys who go for women much younger than themselves, are gross and have insecurities themselves.
I don't "go for them" since I have nothing in common with a teen or early 20's girl. Doesn't mean I can't look and admire. I did feel a bit guilty having impure thoughts watching Chloe Grace Moretz playing Hit Girl in that first Kick Ass movie when she was 13 or 14.
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Really? I'm scared now to know what it says my location is, haha!
Your location says "Your mom's house". That didn't have me thinking tall blonde woman who looks 10 years younger than her age, either.
I generally do think, though, that guys who go for women much younger than themselves, are gross and have insecurities themselves.
The whole idea (people) is so shallow actually.
I have a friend of my age who looks like she's in her mid 30s. Always dated guys in their 40s but nobody said anything as she looks very mature.
I have no problems with a 50 yo guy dating a 30 yo woman but a 40yo male dating a 20yo girl would be a bit over the top imo.
I don't "go for them" since I have nothing in common with a teen or early 20's girl. Doesn't mean I can't look and admire.
I have a lot in common with my teacher for a hobby of mine who is in his early 40s. A lot of older men CAN have a lot in common with a younger women, they just dont want to risk being called a dirty old man by exploring i guess lol. My old boss used to complain about having to take the tube or have lunch with me alone. Sometimes he'd be like "people are looking at me and think what's this guy doing with this young lady"
I consider myself as an old(er) soul who appreciates jazz and classical music, hate mainstream pop culture, hate chick flicks, is totally inactive on social media and well travelled etc. so sometimes I can get along with older people quite well. However, I am still young and therefore not cynical or "ruined" (I hate how society describes 30+ women) so cannot understand a lot of the things that older adults experience, such as wanting more than 2 children or not getting a divorce because kids are still young.
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.. and you shouldn't worry about what other people think, only about what you think - especially when it concerns matters of appearances. 
