Getting a date canceled is so deflating (dates, women, call)

[wolfpackstate]

Asked a girl last week about going out this Saturday and she said yes.

Today she texted me and i said something about our date saturday aksing her a question


3 hours later and.....

no reply

so looks like i need to find new plans

[DMfan]

It has been three hours. Nothing has been canceled. Hold your horses.

[Tahirthegreat]

SHe may be too busy to respond. Give her some time

[Hells Kitchen Dominican]

You should only suspect this if typical time in between text at all hours have been under 20 mins or something like that

[ItsRick24]

Aksing her a question????

[oh-eve]

Wait another half hour.


After 3 hours you are still in the race. 3,5 hours are the point where I would have a break down and call her 10x to make sure she remembers me.

[Hivemind31]

Originally Posted by wolfpackstate

looks like i need to find new plans

Looks like you need to call and leave a voicemail if she doesn't answer.

[JerZ]

Maybe something came up! Don't think she's canceling already. Give her some time to respond. You never know what's going on, if her phone died, or whatever; it could be anything.

[Akonyo]

Originally Posted by wolfpackstate

trust me i know how it goes

I used to think like this.

Then, a few months ago, I had a date set up with a girl. I figured that she might flake so I set up the date at a sushi place that I frequent, figuring that it's convenient and I could just go there anyway if she flaked.

I sent a confirmation message about 4 hours before the date. She didn't respond. When it got to be about 45 minutes before the date, I stopped checking my phone. I was dejected, but hungry. So I went to get sushi alone. I ate quickly (they knew me well over there) and was in and out in about 20 minutes. I was sad that she flaked, but got over it pretty quickly since I was expecting it.

About 3 hours after our scheduled date, I began using my phone to schedule plans with some friends that night. Turned out I got a bunch of messages asking where I was and stating that she was there. In the end, I flaked on her. She was not pleased.

[weezerfan84]

Originally Posted by wolfpackstate

I dont get it because a couple of nights ago she was saying stuff like "well next time maybe i wont fall asleep on your arm"

and " yea you had your heat to high turn it down!"

and "so do you miss seeing my awesome face yet"

and "you know you should miss me"

and "netx time remind yourself to show me"

Did you meet this person online by chance? Some of the type bait she sent you is typical crap you send when you're looking for an ego boost. It would take dates and hours upon hours of time before women would just come out and say they kinda miss me with a flirty emoji or something. She's basically baiting you to make her feel good, because there's really only one logical way to answer this question. You're sure can't say no, unless you know you don't want to see that person again. Sounds like game playing to me...